DISGUSTED By The WORLD.....PLEASE Don't GIVE UP... Here's WHY...!

We are in the midst of one of the greatest spiritual opportunities of this time or any other point in time on this planet.  Our moral integrity and character are being shown that the ‘system’ we have created the past few hundred years no longer serves us. The brick wall we have been heading towards for decades is now upon us. And we now have a God given choice to make a change that has the ability to completely eradicate the hate, narcissism, greed, apathy, disrespect, fear, and selfishness that has been built into the very fabric of our society.  Just as the Blizzard of 2016 caused us to forge together as one and ‘DIG ’ ourselves out of the snow and ice that pelted half of our country, immobilizing millions of us for days if not weeks, it is now time for us to use that same gusto and fortitude to dig out the empty and shallow energy from the fabric of our INNER BEING. But here is the catch;  IT WON'T BE EASY!  Change never is.  And that is why most of us would rather live the same day 10, 000 times in a row than face the unknown of what a new day of truth in perception and action may bring.  It can be frightening stuff indeed.  BUT WE CAN DO IT!  We have too! The cost of being complacent is just to great. 

WE HAVE CREATED A PLANET THAT IS ACTUALLY DYING FROM CLIMATE CHANGE AND OUR LACK OF COMPASSION FOR OUR FELLOW BROTHERS AND SISTERS IS SLOWLY ERADICATING ANY SENSE OF PURE LOVE FROM OUR COLLECTIVE LIVES..........

How many daily storms consisting of mass shootings, torrential weather wiping entire cities off the map, family and friends creating walls of separation against one another, and collective 'blind eyes' towards our fellow brothers and sisters who are in obvious emotional strife and mental pain must we endure before we turn our fear and frustration into ACTION! And have the courage and fortitude towards a rebirthing process of our body, mind, and spirit.

And ironically enough, our programmed biologic center actually transforms and rebirths our cells on a molecular level ever few years. In effect, you are NOT the same person on a cellular level that you were five to ten years ago.  Old cells that no longer served you were let go so that a new version, filled with the new information to create an anabolic energy within your system would be kept in tact.  It is time for us to take a page from our biological programming and start to strip away the old patterns, thoughts, beliefs, and actions that no longer serve us.  Racism, lack, fear, complacency, disrespect, and shallowness must become relics of the past.  Replaced with the LOVE, compassion, joy, wisdom, and kindness that was built into our true spiritual DNA!!  We must be brave and courageous enough to be REBIRTHED into the Greatest Version of the Grandest Vision ever held of ourselves.  

And there is NO TIME TO WAIT!

But be forewarned.  The birthing process is an arduous one.  We must be willing to let go of who we thought we were, so that we can become all that we were meant to BE.  And that means there will be a period of time during the transition in which our identify will feel new and awkward.  You may feel depressed or filled with anxiety as the old you(ego) is shed.  This process will no doubt be uncomfortable and even painful at times.   Excruciating so for some!  During this birthing process, we must be squeezed through pressure to get to the other side of our salvation.  And many will want to turn around and go back. The devil we know is often more comforting than the devil we don't.  But the time for excuses died along with chivalry and common sense and dignity.

For those of you currently completely disillusioned with your life, I want you to understand and know that you are NOT A MISTAKE!  This is not the 'Truman Show' and your life is not for the folly of the rest of us viewers.  You are an integral and important part of the process of soulful unfoldment on this planet. You matter.  MORE THAN YOU COULD POSSIBLE KNOW!! Despite the social imprinting that has clouded and covered up the magnificent wings that you carry at your side, whether it be from abuse, poverty, shaming, or any other form of pain and suffering, this does not eradicate the fact that the angel you came here to be is still waiting for you to fly.  To shed the dirt and grime from a lifetime of illusion so that you can remember who you truly are and share that KNOWINGNESS with the world.

So I invite you to be brave enough to stand right where you are and shout to the world that you are a miracle makin' machine!  That you came here to spread your GLORY in all its forms always and in all ways and will not stand for anything less.  As the luminary spiritual philosopher Victor Frankel said, "There are two times we are born in this life.  And the second time is the moment we understand the meaning of our suffering and the purpose it brings to complete our mission here on earth."

And for any of you New Age Nerds who find great inner discord within this grand growth process of the soul, remember, you are never alone! In fact, if you could allow yourself to reconnect (through meditation, prayer, communion with your tribe members, self growth media on any and all platforms) with all the angels and your own spirit guides that are always at your side, you may never feel alone ever again! 

SUPERHEROES IN TRAINING TAKEAWAYS:

We are currently living in very precarious times. People are living in FEAR, unsure of what their future may hold.  Our TV screens filled almost daily with images of violence, (A post to remember all those who lost their lives in the unbelievably horrific mass shootings in Texas is forthcoming.) separation, vitriol, and anger. A cacophony of never-ending  'Cosmic Chaos'.   Yet, in many ways, I am more hopeful than ever before!  Why, you ask? Because I am experiencing an enormous amount of individuals who are using this time to try and learn, grow, and change.  I get SO many personal messages from readers of The New Age Nerd sharing their personal stories of struggle and survival with me.   And I feel incredibly honored and privileged they entrust me with their deep heartfelt longing and pain. Not to mention their sincere desire to experience a more spiritually awakened life.  One that encompasses the reason why we are ALL here.  One filled with purpose and deeper meaning that juxtaposes materialistic binges filled with 'quick hits' of happiness for more long lasting inner BLISS!  And that is simply to give and receive MORE LOVE......... 

And for the majority of us, this shift in perspective and clarity occurs through spiritual awakenings.

For many of us, the first sign of a Spiritual Awakening is having what I call a ‘BREAK OPEN.’ This occurs when we are at our own razor's edge.  And life seems to be slowly breaking us down in every way imaginable.  Many people call it hitting ‘rock bottom.’  And it's more than just emotionally painful. It causes us to question the very fabric of our foundational beliefs.  And for those of you currently reading this who are in this state, I want to say CONGRATULATIONS! Because this is a sign that you may be at the precipice of having a Spiritual Awakening.  You are being broken down so that you can ‘Break Open.’   And in doing so, unleash the gifts and talents you were blessed with for the purpose of sharing them with the world!

I am NOT implying that this stage is easy.  FOR IT IS NOT!  I know from a cacophony of my own spiritual awakenings ( most of us will have several versions of spiritual awakenings within our lifetime) experience how scary, painful, and absolutely terrifying it can be.  This stage often includes the letting go of things that no longer serve us;  friends, jobs, even family members. As Marianne Williamson calls it ‘The Day of The Wrecking Ball.’  Because our very foundation must be pulled up and out to allow the space for the new one to be built in its place.  And that my friends, is NO FUN!  Yet it is also a crucial part of the process.  Just like any building, it is ONLY as strong as its foundation, right?  Many of the elements born from our past foundations were manifested into our experience when we were not yet ready to Break Open. And now that we are, some things are going to have to change.  And for a while all the loss, change, and pain may cause us the desire to run back to our old, past surroundings and emotional programming.  As the old saying goes, 'Better the Devil you know than the Devil you don't."

SUPERHERO'S TRAINING TIP:  Please do not do that.....You are preparing to soar with the Eagles rather than continue to cuss out life with the Crows....    ;0)

One of my own personal heroes, the late Wayne Dyer, explained this crucial life stage, “The experience of a crisis immobilizes us for a long period of time. Our mind is focused on the disaster aspects of the situation, and we are unable to function effectively. We are unable to sleep or eat, and do not know how we are going to get past the terrible set of circumstances. We use our minds to focus on what is wrong, how painful it is, and how terrible it is going to be in the future. Advice from friends and relatives seems unrelated to our problem and usually results in anger and frustration. We cannot see any way out of our misery.

This is a typical response for all of us who are traveling our life paths in the belief that the external signposts are all there is to our reality. We cannot imagine that there is a valuable lesson in the trauma. We reject any suggestions that someday we will recall this experience as a necessary step in our development. We simply want to wallow in our hurt, believing that someone or something outside of us is creating this pain, and wishing that those externals would change.”

This stage often includes a short period of malaise and anxiety, or both.  Please know that you are NOT broken- even though it will often feel that way!  What you are doing is getting prepared to birth miracles.  And the birthing process (as you ladies know) is an arduous one.  Not for the faint of heart.  Part of the sadness/anxiety stems from the longing of the things we are letting go of.  Some of it stems from the experience of having a keen awareness that we are not currently following our Superhero's Journey, the very purpose of our life  And leaving our old life behind so that we can accept the life that has been patiently awaiting us can be one of the most daunting endeavors we will ever undertake!  

Stage TWO of a Spiritual Awakening is where we begin the slow process of having complete gratitude for our sufferings.  Because we start feeling that our pain and suffering is not in vein. We begin to have connection with and for our pain because we sense there is an important reason behind it.  Things that once seemed chaotic start making sense.  Wayne Dyer explains it like this, “This is an important step in the enlightenment process, and helps us to see how synchronized the one song really is. Certainly we still experience the pain and suffering, but we simultaneously know that there is something magnificent in this as well. We are able to be gentle and accepting with ourselves, and to honor and love even the part that is creating the crisis. We probably will not cognitively understand why this pain is occurring right now, but we will have an underlying knowingness and belief in the value of it.”

Stage THREE of this awakening is ALL ABOUT SYNCHRONICITY.  There comes a moment in which the pain of NOT committing to our awakening and purpose becomes more painful that the thought of taking that leap of faith.  So through pure force of will, we 'TAKE THE JUMP.'  Having faith that Spirit will provide and protect us on this Journey.  And guess what, Spirit  does.  Always and in all ways.  It is a Universal Law  (A promise from SOURCE-THE ONE GOD MIND if you will) that once you truly commit to this Divine Awakening, Spirit will flood your experience with everything you need to fulfill your destiny.  It may not happen all at once. So please, be patient during this stage.  Miracles often take time in this dimension.  But by staying in this new state of allowance, you will begin to experience synchronicity almost daily. People start showing up out of the blue to offer guidance.  Financial opportunities present themselves to help support your vision.  You begin to attract a new TRIBE of like minded friends and a support team. And let me tell you, it's when many first start experiencing the sensation of creating Heaven on Earth!  And it is blissful, and magical.  You cannot imagine living in any other way, ever again!  

For those of you who may be skeptical of this process, I can understand.  ESPECIALLY if you are currently in the middle of Stage ONE.  I know, because I've been there.  BOY have I been there! There were many days in which after making it from my bed to the downstairs sofa I would softly declare, "Watch out world, there is NO stopping me now!!"  LOL

Even if it doesn't feel like it right now, LIFE IS A BLESSING!  And please do not beat yourself up for whatever state you currently find yourself in.  You are EXACTLY where you need to be on your Superhero's Journey.  Nothing you have experienced will be wasted. For the Universe wastes absolutely nothing!  And once you reach the place where you are in complete alignment of allowance, and living your PURPOSE, fully awakened to your calling, LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!

And to assist every New Age Nerd in creating an ever growing sense of internal INSPIRATION, I'd like to leave you with the following transcendent musical lyrics:

                                                                        ONE by India Arie...........

Billions live their lives
Now Muhammad, Krisha, or the Buddha are the way.
Still some believe it's right to say
In the name of Jesus when you pray.

[Chorus:]
We are a human kind of 7 billion
So many different races and religions
And it all comes down to one

Some say God's a him
Still many believe that He is a Her
Does God Live in our hearts?
Or is She somewhere out there in the universe.

[Chorus]

How far will have to go before we learn the lesson?
Gandhi, was a Hindu
Martin Luther King, a Christian
Regardless of religion, they knew love was the mission
And it all comes down to one.

Is there no God at all?
Or a pantheon of gods up in the sky
We can heal our broken hearts
If we give up the desire to be right.

We are a human kind of seven billion
So many different races and religions
And we all want the same things
Health, Love, Prosperity and Peace
Tolerance is the seed
And the gift of pure acceptance is the tree

[Chorus]

Whether you are red, brown, yellow, black, or white
Man with a husband, or a woman with a wife
We can debate until the end of time who is wrong or right
Or we can see ourselves as one
Cause it all comes down to love.

BE SUPER HEROIC!

BE LOVE - SERVE ALL - ALWAYS INSPIRE

STAY SO STRONG, THEY HAVE TO WONDER HOW YOU'RE STILL SMILING!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Are YOU a Spiritual ENTERTAINER or A Conscious HERO..!!

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC’

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Since the mid 2000's, there has been a growing group of individuals who practice what I call ‘Spiritual Entertainment.’  These searchers of  the easy way toward Truth have become professional masters who can absolutely WOW you or a group of people with their spiritual vernacular and perfected practice of various quotes from books they have obviously read many times over.  And their talent in captivating a group is absolutely undeniable.  And the confidence in their seemingly innate ability to capture a group's attention with epithets of the rules to SUCCESS and Soulful Nirvana are things worthy of America's Got Talent!  But upon deeper investigation, you realize that their Spiritual Song and Dance Show is more surface based than they would have you believe.  While they may have perfected the vernacular that enthralls those seeking The Way, with just one singular peak behind the true Wisdom of Their Wizard's curtain, you realize that what they are actually peddling is all Egoistic in nature.  They wish to be liked, seen, heard, and validated by the rest of us.  They ‘talk the talk’ but when it comes to actually living what they are teaching, well,  their magical semantics become a hoax of well rehearsed riveting routines that falsely capture the hard work, dedication, and courage it takes to take the first steps toward your own Hero's/ Heroine's Journey.  

This form of ‘Spiritual Entertainment’ is hollow, superficial and leaves us feeling empty.  Not unlike any form of a quick fix we seek to fill any various forms of pain and disconnection that we all face when we become completely detached from our connection to SOURCE.  
This form of spiritual narcissism is captured perfect in the following Bible quote:“Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.” - 1 John 4:1

As you can imagine, during my 20 year history on my own path of self realization, I have come across many of these Spirits who peddle a get spiritual rich quick program of one from or another.  And my goal here is NOT TO JUDGE THEM.  They are on their path and like the rest of us, deserve the dignity of their own individual process.  However, that DOES NOT mean that we must not choose to love them from the other side of the room!  Right?! Many of us on the path of righteousness are fragile and vulnerable.  Most of us are in pain and seeking a way toward's our own SOULS salvation.   So I thought I would share some tell tale signs that you may be dealing with a “Spiritual Narcissist” in order to support you in continuing your path of functional and soulful Purpose!

1.) They Constantly Reference their own Achievements

The Spiritual Narcissist loves to self-promote. For them, every conversation is an opportunity to share just how superior they are to the average believer. They typically go about this by listing off their own achievements. You’ll hear them talk incessantly about their upcoming book, their latest achievement, sermon series, missions work, or that time they led someone to the TRUTH.

2.) They Invade Conversations

The Spiritual Narcissist craves control, and their highest authority is always their own self-reference. As a result, it’s not uncommon for them to invade the personal or private conversations of others. They’ll often do this under the guise of “helping” or “correcting” fellow SEEKERS, but they have no real interest in two-way dialogue.  You can choose to be loving or be RIGHT, and these individuals tend toward the latter!!

3.) They Twist The Word Of God

Susan B. Anthony once said, “I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires”. In the same way, a Spiritual Narcissist uses scripture as a tool for their purpose instead of God’s. They approach the Bible/Koran/or any spiritual understanding with a closed mind, memorizing only a handful of useful verses that will justify their behavior. Anything else, particularly scripture that conflicts with their actions, gets ignored. 

The best defense TRUTH SEEKERS have against this kind of faulty theology is to simply read from the words of our world sacred spiritual teachers. The more familiar we become with God’s work, the more familiar we become with God.

4.) They Profess Love, but RARELY Show It 

Perhaps the easiest way to identify a Spiritual Narcissist is to see if their works match their words. Many will claim they have nothing but love and compassion in their hearts for those they rebuke, but their actions prove otherwise. God says we can judge a prophet by the fruit of his labors, “A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit.” So, what kind of harvest do they bring to God’s table? Division? Disdain? Cruelty?

Love is more than words, love is actions. That’s what separates the true Seeker from the Spiritual Narcissist.

5.) They Talk, but They Don’t Listen

Listening can be a powerful tool. Listening builds trust, creates empathy, and fosters understanding among individuals.  The Spiritual Narcissist, by contrast, is quick to speak, quick to take offense, and incapable of listening. They enjoy being the loudest one in the room, and the idea of deferring to someone else galls them.

A true Spiritualist listens to others, even when they might not agree with them. Listening requires that we be selfless, which is the one thing a Spiritual Narcissist can never be.

Before I close this post, I want to reiterate that I am in NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM judging any Spirit in the Cosmos.  I truly DO NOT believe in Right vs. Wrong.  And certainly do not adhere to any practice that would place judgment on ANY SOUL. I fervently believe that all SOULS are EXACTLY where they need to be in their own individual process of understanding and maturation.   But for those of us who have transcended certain levels of consciousness, it only impedes our continued growth to engage with these individuals who are still ‘finding their way.’

In time, I know we will all dance in one grand SOULABRATION of TRUTH and Re-membrance, and when that future moment of NOW occurs, I will be the very first one on the dance floor and the very last one off!!   And I welcome any and ALL dance partners on that Sacred Day!!!!  My dancing partner list is ready to be filled!!!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Learn How To PLAY The Game of LIFE..!!

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL
“MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

“I used to say I lived my life a quarter mile at a time 

Now…I think that’s why we were brothers…

Because you did too!”

“No matter where you are….whether its a quarter mile away, or half way across the world…You will always be with me….and you will always be my brother…….”

~~  Dominic Toretto       (THE FUROUS 7)

 [letter to Stark]  “Tony, I'm glad you're back at the compound. I don't like the idea of you rattling around a mansion by yourself. We all need family. The Avengers are yours, maybe more so than mine. I've been on my own since I was 18. I never really fit in anywhere, even in the army. My faith's in people, I guess. Individuals. And I'm happy to say that, for the most part, they haven't let me down. Which is why I can't let them down either. Locks can be replaced, but maybe they shouldn't. I know I hurt you, Tony. I guess I thought by not telling you about your parents I was sparing you, but I can see now that I was really sparing myself, and I'm sorry. Hopefully one day you can understand. I wish we agreed on the Accords, I really do. I know you're doing what you believe in, and that's all any of us can do. That's all any of us should... So no matter what, I promise you, if you need us - if you need me - I'll be there.”

[Tony looks at a flip phone Steve sent him]

~~  Steve Rogers AKA Captain America                (CAPTAIN AMERICA: CIVIL WAR)

“ We don't read and write poetry because it's cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for. To quote from Whitman, "O me! O life!... of the questions of these recurring; of the endless trains of the faithless... of cities filled with the foolish; what good amid these, O me, O life?" Answer. That you are here - that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. That the powerful play *goes on* and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be?”

~~  John Keating           (THE DEAD POETS SOCIETY)


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When I was just starting out my teenage years, I had a small group of friends that all lived in my community and it was perhaps the first time I understood the importance of having a tribe.  Looking back in retrospect, it's quite amazing how many powerful spiritual lessons were engrained within me during this often awkward and precarious time of life.  Events that were perhaps the initial birthing place of my passion for self growth and transformation.  Fond memories that have now become stories I still share with myself and others that have lasting life lessons.

Growing up on the East Coast, the winter snow was always a welcomed relief from the daily stress of school.  And since both of my parents were teachers, we were the first to get phoned the night before if schools were closing the next day.  SNOW DAYS were the ‘Holy Grail’ of childhood blessings and brought with them an unending opportunity for fun and freedom.  Our group was perhaps the first incarnation of TV's current ‘BIG BANG THEORY’.  We were for the most part a cadre of nerds who shared our intense passions for video games, movies, mythology, and especially board games.
We were all competitive as hell and took losing relatively tough.  Then again we were still pups in the relative scope of our emotional development.  And on one particular snowy afternoon those many years ago, we all got together for an afternoon of winner takes all MONOPOLY!  Little did I realize then, what a powerful metaphor for life was about to be displayed during that day's battle royal with the dice..........

One friend in our group we referred to as ‘Alex P. Keaton’,  after the character Michael J. Fox perfected on the TV show  ‘FAMILY TIES.’  Like the character Alex, he was obsessed with Wall Street, money, was small in nature, and had a relatively sharp temper.  All games played with him were intense, but he played Monopoly with a fervor that was unmatched by anyone else I had ever met.  He was wickedly smart and he certainly won his fair share of games.  But not on this day!

An hour or so into the game, I found myself on a Vegas worthy lucky streak and started collecting  houses and hotels all around the Monopoly board!  As I looked around the table, I noticed ‘Alex’ was just about out of money.  One more unlucky roll of the dice, causing him to land on one of my stockpiled board spaces, and he was done!  And he knew it.  His brows began to furrow and his lips were parsed.  I handed him the dice which he grabbed from my hands in obvious disgust.  He shook the dice for an unusually long time and then threw them down across the board.  He counted out the steps with his game piece and landed right SMACK in the middle of my Boardwalk.........

In what seemed like an instant, he grabbed the board game from each side, and flipped it high into the air.  Sending pieces of plastic and fake paper money flying all over the room in what felt like perpetual slow motion!  Not to mention ruining the game for the those of us who were still participating.  The group sat in awkward silence for what felt like an eternity.  Unfortunately, the game was obviously over and the rest of us began collecting the various game pieces that had been flung in every other direction with ‘Alex's’ display of utter dismay.

Of course we were furious, but at that point in our lives, we were not comfortable with heated confrontations, so not much was said until days later.  And looking back, I'm glad I handled the situation in the manner that I did.  Because whether we knew it or not at the time, ‘Alex’ had just taught us a Gi-normous life lesson that I still share to this day.  Rather than simply playing the game for the joy, laughter, and fun it can provide, he allowed the ILLUSION of the game to become HIS REALITY.

Admittedly, this tremendously powerful metaphor didn't solidify itself for me until many years later.  But do you see how we all do this very same thing in our own lives.  We allow the ILLUSION of this world to become our REALITY.   Just as ‘Alex’ did!  And when we do, we become disconnected from Spirit and the purpose that we came here to accomplish.  And that's very often when depression, anxiety, loneliness, and separation from SOURCE sits in and stays for a while.  Or unfortunately for some, never leaves.

We live in a Matrix of energy that was designed as a creative space for our souls to experience the Greatest Version of the Grandest Vision we have ever held of ourselves.  SO much of what we see and experience is an ILLUSION to give us the very opportunities we desire to feel.  I know it can seem SO completely real at times, and it was set up that way.  How else could we have such transcendent experiences unless the GAME we were playing felt so tangibly realistic.  I like to believe that the masters on this planet, have slowly learned to “tip their toe” in the universal life-force that surrounds us.  Just enough to enjoy the game and experience it for what it was meant to be, but never “jumping in” completely, thus allowing the ILLUSION to become their REALITY.

As Eckert Tolle says in ‘A New Earth’, “ All we can perceive, experience, think about, is the surface layer of reality.  Less than the tip of an iceberg.  Underneath the surface appearance, everything is not only connected to everything else, but also with the SOURCE of all life from which it came.”  Essentially we are all ONE.  The illusion is that we are all separate.  But we could not have all the juicy, delectable experiences we desire, if we did not have the illusion of separation.

My intention for you today, is to Re-member this story the next time you feel yourself allowing the ILLUSION of life to become your REALITY.  And even better than that, share this Re-membrance with others who may have lost their way.   We all do at some point.  That's why, as they say, “It takes a Village!”

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

We TEACH People How We Want To Be TREATED..!

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

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One of the most common issues I am confronted with by my clients is the manner in which they are BEING treated by others.  Be it their spouse, co-workers, family members, or friends, it certainly seems to be an EPIC problem.  And it's completely understandable.  We all would like to be treated with respect, kindness, and love.  As Oprah has stated over and over again, the ONE common trait she has found on her Journey meeting with people from all over the world is their DESIRE to be seen and heard with respect.

But before we jump into the discussion of how others are treating you, it is absolutely vital to acknowledge how YOU are treating YOU.  When was the last time you spent quality time checking in with yourSELF on such important topics such as what are your core values, beliefs, and feelings; especially with regards to how you are using these emotions and thoughts and how they relate toward your own sense of SELF worth.  Would you agree that it is quite challenging to ask others to treat you in a manner that you don't even treat YOURSELF?   I would say HECK YES!    

Here are a few important questions you can ask yourself.  What is your Code of Conduct system?  Do you even have one?  What is your ideal vision for a true CO-Creational relationship?   What are your boundaries regarding the way you desire to be treated?  Do you have a defined value system for yourSELF?  What does respect mean to you? 

I know all to well from my own personal experience how damaging NOT having answers to these questions can be for our interpersonal relationships.  The reason being is THAT WE TEACH OTHERS HOW WE WANT TO BE TREATED.   Re-read that last sentence.  It will be one of the most important tenets to your happiness and success in your lifetime!  

My birth father abandoned our family when I was just 3 years of age.  And the long lasting affect it had on my psyche was devastating.  I consequently grew up being absolutely terrified that if I stood up for myself in situations that I knew were not being respectful of my feelings, the person would leave.  So by MY actions of NOT saying anything, I was actually teaching people it was A-OK to treat me in such a hurtful and disrespectful manner.  And it took me a LONG time to gain the sense of self LOVE to in a sense re-teach others how I desired to be treated.  And it was FAR from easy to do so.  Once people get accostomed to to treating you in a familiar manner, trying to undue this behavior can cause some friction, to say the least!  

In fact, it took me into my 30's to truly redefine my own sense of Core Conduct and develop a deep rooted and overwhelming degree of SELF LOVE.  The type that compassionately sets the tone with others.  And what a difference did it make!  I now make it very clear to my personal Tribe members what I expect in our co-creations and make DAMN sure I do my part in returning the sense of love, respect, and kindness I seek for myself!

Plus, with way of the Universal Law of Attraction, we actually attract people who are going to treat us EXACTLY how we treat ourselves.  Haven't you been witness to many a friend who continues to attract the same ‘wolf in sheep's clothing ’ in their personal relationships?!?  It's because like attracts like.  I love the saying “Likes tend to last!”  And they DO!  No doubt about it!

And here is something else that is so vital to remember when we DO attract people into our life who cause us emotional pain and discomfort.  They are actually providing us with a wonderful gift.   They are shining a light on the areas within YOU that still need LOVE and attention.  That's right!  They are showing you where healing still needs to be done.  That doesn't mean we need to keep them in our life forever, but instead of reacting outwardly toward them in a non compassionate manner, thank them internally for the gift they came to give you and then realize it is perfectly OK to love them from the other side of the room if their behavior continues.  

Another important thing to remember is that people are not mind readers.  One tweak that has created miracles in my personal relationships is actually sharing with others how I need them show up for me in certain situations.  Most individuals tend to go into ‘fix it mode’ when we come to them with our problems.  When very often, all we need is for them to listen.  But we rarely share this information with them.  So  I urge you to start implementing this technique into your relationships and see the MIRACLES that start to manifest!

The last suggestion I will impart on this topic has to do with conflict resolution skills.  Sophia Nelson, a writer for the Huffington Post said it brilliantly, “This is critical — you must surround yourself with people again who have a similar code. I like to TALK things out. I think it is essential to talk before you walk. No matter how uncomfortable, or challenging, at some point mature adults have to talk about their differences and seek to resolve them peaceably in ways that make us better, wiser people. I detest (and I mean detest) people who do wrong things and cannot own their mistakes, apologize and grow up. I do not suffer people lightly who cause drama, then exit out, leaving others to clean up their mess or to have other left holding the emotional baggage of the wounds they have caused. Find out how people resolve conflicts before you get attached to them or in business dealings with them.”

I hope this information will help you move forward in all your relationships with a better mutually understanding of common respect, compassion, and fellowship.  The kind this world desperately needs!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Learn Just How POWERFUL Your BELIEFS Are..!!

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

J.R. Tolkein        (The Lord of The Rings) ___________________________________________________

I was recently working with a client who was, to say the least, completely frustrated and utterly confused.   She was doing what she THOUGHT were all the ‘right’ things to try and improve certain areas of her life.  Yet it seemed that instead of experiencing the changes she desired, she was manifesting complete CHAOS.  After several minutes attempting to calm her down back into a space of peaceful alignment so that our session could continue in a productive manner, I decided this was a job for the my inner SuperHero ‘The Connoisseur of Consciousness’.  You see, the true skill of coaching is in the subtle art of figuring out where the TRUE block of the client resides.  Sometimes, this comes after one session and becomes quite obvious with divine, heartfelt listening.  Now on other occasions, it's kinda like being a crime detective worthy of a Sherlock Holmes type prowess. 
And after only 15 minutes, I knew this was going to be much more like the latter!  lol

Some clients can be quite tricky and mercurial to try and coach, because they have a way of being very persuasive with their vernacular.  They come across as quite confident and self aware with pat statements that they THINK  display that they have things under control and that it is the cursed people, places, and things OUT THERE that are the cause of all their pain and suffering.  Refusal of self responsibility for any of their current life ‘predicaments’ is one sure sign that they are out of alignment in some foundational manner.  Of course, trying to break through their level of self refusal takes patience, compassion, with a huge helping side of intuitive knowhow.  And trust me, sometimes you just don't KNOW HOW you are going to find out where this misalignment reside.  ;0)

Most of us spend our energy living ‘within the shadows.’  Caught up in the drama of the darkness rather than moving toward the direction of the actual obstacle that is BLOCKING THE LIGHT in the first place.  For those of you who just can't grasp the true value of having a life coach, hopefully this helps explain the miracles that a co-creation with the right qualified coach can bring.  We help our clients in finding that obstacle to “let the Sunshine in, and face it with a grin!” (For your Flintstones fans! ) ;0)

During our third session, I noticed something quite contradictory in nature.  My client would say what she desired with a fervent passion.  Only to back up the statement with something that COMPLETELY contradicted what she wanted!  For instance, after saying she really wanted to find a new career, it was quickly followed with something like “Most companies are greedy and don't care about their people so I am being extra picky!”  And she wonders why the numerous resumes she has been sending out have been met with two results.  One being that she hears nothing back from them.  Or even worse, she lands an interview, and sure enough, the experience turns out to be caustic and off putting.  Same thing with her diatribes about relationships.  For each declaration of “I would love to find someone to settle down with, and be a true partner”,  it was soon followed by “But most men can't be trusted and lie and cheat!”  AYE DIOS MIO!!  Can you imagine how stressed out her spirit guides must be!  No doubt they have perhaps requested a reassignment from time to time.   LOL

I bring this up NOT to place any sense of judgment on the client, only to use it as a TEXTBOOK example of how what we BELIEVE actually creates a much more POWERFUL energetic vibration than what we think or even say.  Just as the conscious mind is the source of thought, the subconscious mind is the SOURCE of our true POWER of manifestation.  It is deeply and profoundly rooted in instinct, and it is aware of the most basic and extraordinary desires within us all.  It is a POWERHOUSE through which the most incredible amount of SOURCE can be connected with.  And it is within our SUBCONSCIOUS that we store our actual BELIEFS!

Basically, we can think one thing, and do another that matches that thought, BUT if our BELIEFS about what we are saying and doing contradict the intended outcome, well, that's the space in which CHAOS rules.  I love this quote from the sensational book ‘The Power of Believing’ by Nido Qubein, when he states, “Therefore visualize the exact thing(job, relationship, home etc) you desire and use daily affirmations until BELIEF in your goal becomes a vital part of you and your body.  See yourself actually doing the things or experiencing the people you desire, because every thought, backed by an equal BELIEF in that thought sooner or later materializes it into your life.”

It's really all about BEING in alignment.  I have a suspecting intuition that if you truly start to check in within yourself several times a day, many of you will realize that what you think, say, do and BELIEVE are not in alignment with one another.  One, two, or more of these things are not congruent with the WHOLE!  And all that gets you is a whole lotta frustration, chaos and disappointment.  

So I urge you to think about the principles I have explained in today's post, and be honest with yourself.  RE-member, your outer experiences are a direct reflection of you inner reality.  Basically speaking, you cannot lie to the UNIVERSE.  It knows what you truly think and what you BELIEVE and will deliver to you the exact order you are putting in to the Wisdom Waiter always at your side!
So before you scream, “EXCUSE ME GOD, BUT I DID NOT ORDER THAT!”, Re-member that based on your BELIEFS, you actually did!!



Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Why Your STORY Truly MATTERS..!!

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

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I am often asked how is that I am able to allow my true vulnerability to be paraded through the daily posts on my blog, as well as with all my daily clients.  And it DOES NOT stop there!  My vulnerability is as equally on constant display with my friends and family members as well.  Keeping with this notion, I will be vulnerable and completely transparent to share with the New Age Nerd community that this has NOT always been the case.  In fact, far from it!  I used to be incredibly withdrawn and shy.  I remember one story during High School in which my sister (One year my junior) came home one day and asked if she could have a chat .  She said that she had been confronted from several of her cute girlfriends who did not not know what to think of me.  They would invariably approach me during breaks between classes, to which I would politely say “Hi!” and then promptly walk away!  This was in no way an indication of my core BEING.  I have always been kind, compassionate, and extremely sensitive!  Now what it demonstrated  was a telltale sign of  my lack of self worth and self love that any girl would want anything to do with me at that point in my life.  I say that not to sound pathetic, but rather to be transparent in my own process toward self realization.  And while I did go back to each and every one of these young ladies to apologize for my behavior, I DO NOT regret one moment of the experience these co-creations afforded me.  Why?!?   Because they have now become a pantheon in my personal BOOK of My Hero's Journey toward my purpose and path.  And I have accepted them all for the gifts they have brought me and that I now use to share with others who are still searching through their own darkness, looking for the light of their salvation.  

Please do not UNDERESTIMATE the POWER of your own Story!  Some coaches and spiritual teachers preach that WE ARE NOT OUR STORY!  I believe that there is no true right or wrong, and that there are many paths back to the Light.  However, through my Journey I have come to understand that our spiritual essence is comprised of MORE than just our Story, but while we are in this human body, our Story is indeed a grand part of us as well as our collective consciousness on the planet!   And sharing your pain, challenges, and Soulful Struggles are perhaps the most potent gift we can offer one another. as we raise the vibrational energy here on Earth!  One of my favorite quotes comes from Harold Goddard who declared with such mythological wisdom, “The destiny of the world is less determined from the battles lost and won than by the stories it loves and believes in.”  Amen to that!  In fact, that is why I begin every post with “Mythological Magic.”   As Joseph Campbell learned through several decades of study, stories and myths contain the spiritual guideposts to our own TRUTH!  It is not a coincidence that we all flock to movies like Star Wars, Lord of The Rings, and the latest comic book movie at our local cineplex.  Whether we realize it or not, these stories touch our subconscious with an inspirational zest we take away from the theatre and incorporate into our own Hero's/Heroine's Journey!!

Somebody once told me with firm conviction that the five most important words you can share with someone are:   LET ME TELL YOU A STORY!!  Not to make a co-creation all about you however.  Quite the opposite actually.  It is the most authentic manner of showing others our VULNERABILITY.  Bene Brown, a vulnerability expert did an entire Ted talk about this very subject.  In her speech, she says that it is not just the fear of failure and shame that causes people to feel vulnerable, making them risk averse and paralyzing them into inaction. Brown says that you must believe in yourself and “have the courage to be imperfect” and accept vulnerability. Brown says that you must “believe you are enough”, which will allow you to accept vulnerability, take risks, and reap the rewards.   And I will add to that that it is in the process of sharing our own vulnerability with others that emits a Shining and Soulful Light to let others know that not only are they never alone in their pain and suffering, but there is a LOVE Light at the end of the tunnel waiting to embrace them like a marathon runner who has finished their treacherous  race!!  But this race has no ending.  It is just the ending of one process toward transformation and Re-membrance, as we head to the next chapter!

As a Life and Leadership Master Coach, I cannot tell you how many times my vulnerable sharing of lessons learned along my path have created true AH HA moments of transcendence for my clients!   Whether you are a coach or not, we ALL have the same capability of giving  to others parts of our personal stories when appropriate.  May I just ask you to Re-member as a strong suggestion to ALWAYS ask permission before giving out unsolicited advice.  For doing so can be a very disrespectful and painful action step toward another Soul's precious process and unique Journey!  But as long as there is a mutual consensus to do so, you may be delightfully amazed at the power of true change and new transformative creation your stories contain for the world to hear...........

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Do You KNOW Who You Are DYING To Be..?!!?

TODAY'S INSPIRATIONAL “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

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In 2002, Anita Moorjani, born of Hindu descent was diagnosed with cancer.  For the following 4 years, her body valiantly fought this insidious dis-ease that was slowly shutting down her bodily organs one by one.  Until February 2, 2006, the day she claims, “I died. Although in a coma, I was acutely aware of everything that was happening around me, including the sense of  urgency and emotional frenzy of my family as they rushed me to the hospital."  When her family arrived, the moment the oncologist saw me, her face filled with shock.  “Your wife's heart may still be beating,” she told my husband Danny, “but she's not really in there.  It's too late to save her.”

By Anita's account in her transformational and highly profound personal memoir DYING TO BE ME, although she was in a complete coma, she was able to hear and see everything that was happening around her body.  She was having an NDE. (Near Death Experience)  But unlike many of the other narratives I have consumed on this phenomenon, this one was less grandiose and usurped any sense of the traditional tropes usually found in such accountings. There are no ‘white lights’ or personal meetings with Messianic energies.  In place of these experiences, Moorjani's retelling of her NDE is filled with Re-membrance and HOPE.  And an incredibly powerful message for those of us still finding our way on this remarkable Journey called life!

“Know I have said it before, but it bears repeating: I now live my life from JOY instead of FEAR.  This is the one simple difference between who I was before my NDE and who I am today.    Before, without even realizing it, everything I did was to avoid pain or to please other people.  I was caught up in doing, pursuing,searching, and achieving; and I was the last person I ever took into consideration.  My life was driven by FEAR- of displeasing others, of failing, of being selfish, and of not being good enough.  In my own head, I always fell short,” recalls Moorjani.  

I don't know about you, but I can relate in many ways to her recollection of her life before her NDE.  And I have MORE than an intuitive feeling that many of you reading this share many of her exact thoughts and feelings right NOW....  And as I have stated oh so often in many of my previous posts, EVERYTHING that happens in our experience is for our greater good.  And I do mean EVERYTHING!!  No Thing is ever wasted in this Universe.  Because everything is made up of pure and perfect energy and we are all a part of this ONENESS.  As Albert Einstein said, “The only thing you have to decide is whether we live in a compassionate Universe.”   I don't know about you, but my answer is straight to the proverbial point.  HELLS YES! I have the complete KNOWINGNESS the Universe is all loving, non judgmental, compassionate, and "always has our back."   The rest is just pure folly!! As Anita found out during her near death journey!

“My heightened awareness in that expanded realm was indescribable, despite my best efforts to explain it.  The clarity was amazing.  The Universe makes sense!  I realized.  I finally understand-I know why I have cancer!  I was too caught up in in the wonder of that moment to dwell on the cause, although I would soon examine it more closely.  I also seemed to comprehend why I'd come into this life in the first place- I knew my true purpose.  Why do I suddenly understand all this?  I wanted to know.  Who is giving me this information? Is it God? Krishna? Buddha? Jesus? And then I was overwhelmed by the realization that God isn't a BEING, but a state of being....  and I was now that state of being!  Every single encounter was woven together to create the fabric that was the sum of my life up to this point.   I may only have been one thread, yet I was an integral part to the overall finished picture.”

And GUESS WHAT, so are each and every one of you.!! You are all a perfectly crafted concoction that encompasses all the beauty in the Universe.  And you DESERVE to be loved, cherished and adored beyond any measure previously fathomable within yourSELVES; simply because you exist.  Because we are all connected at every level.  Your every action has an effect on both YOU as well as the collective whole.  And it is this very Re-membrance that Anita Moorjani brought back with her to share with the world during her Heroine's Journey during her NDE!

“I became aware that we are all connected.  This was not only every person and living creature, but the interwoven unification felt as though it were expanding outward to include everything in the universe.  I realized that the entire universe is alive and infused with consciousness, encompassing all life and nature.  We're all facets of that UNITY-we're all ONE......” writes Moorjani.  

“I also understood that the cancer was not some punishment for anything I had done wrong, nor was I experiencing negative karma as a result of any of my actions, as I'd previously believed.  It was as though every moment held infinite possibilities, and where I was at this point in time was a culmination of every decision, every choice, and every thought of my entire life.  My many fears and great power had manifested as this disease.”

Moorjani's book is so full of such subtle insight and beautiful prose that I won't spoil any more of her Journey for those of you who may be interested in buying a copy for yourself.  I think you will be incredibly glad if you choose to do so!!  

So I ask you; are you living life or slowly ‘Dying to BE?!' Because there is simply no reason to do that.  We must simply BE STILL and search our thoughts and feelings for the answers to our greatest dilemmas and for the reason we came.  Please stop wasting any earthly "time" of your BEINGNESS.  TIME is one of the most precious gifts we have and musn't be wasted or it will be worn into the shards of time.

As Moorjani espouses, “I believe that the greatest truths of the Universe don't lie outside, in the study of the stars and the planets.  They lie deep within us, in the magnificence of our heart, mind, and soul.  Until we understand what is within, we can't understand what is without.” 

TRUTH!



HEROES IN TRAINING TAKEAWAYS: 

I had my own NDE that I promise to fully flesh out in a future moment of NOW; so stay tuned!  The wonderful aspect of this earthly experience is you obviously DO NOT have to have an NDE to awaken and activate your SUPER HEROIC HIGHER SELF.  As Mrs. Moorjani did.  There are many paths to shed any false belief that you are anything but "A Spiritual Being Having an Earthly Experience."   And NOT the other way around!

I teach my clients a very pragmatic, but "Highly Transformative" process to assist them in Re-membering who they really are; and why they incarnated in human form at this very moment of NOW.  Gently guiding them in creating a new "Heroic Origin Story" that discovers and transcends the blocks and limiting beliefs that have kept them living in a state of victim consciousness through living within an EGOIC BASED STORY that has become your truth.   All so they can shift into more dynamic and empowering behaviors by uncovering and UNLEASHING their Super Heroic Higher Selves!  Super powers and all!  To be of "Supreme Service" to themselves and others in the name of LOVE.  The byproduct of which is bliss filled abundance in all areas of their lives! (I have a couple of slots currently open for anyone who would like to "EXPERIENCE" this process I have honed and perfected over the past 13 years.  I offer one FREE coaching session to any New Age Nerd with absolutely no obligations.  If you feel called toward the idea of transforming your life and expanding your mind-set toward the reality YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO LIMITS, simply e-mail me: Jeffmartinez@me.com.  And include New Age Nerd Offer in the subject line!)  

Please re-member that you are NOT a victim of your life's experiences and circumstances.  Quite the opposite in fact!  The Universe works its magic THROUGH you and ALWAYS for you.  NEVER "TO" YOU!  Big, big difference.  

Every one of you is a HERO!  And I mean everyone; NO exceptions.  The origin of the word HERO comes from the greek word HEROS.  Meaning two.  As in what I do for you, I do for mySELF  And what I do for mySELF, I do for you.  It was later changed to HERO.  Meaning to BE of loving service to yourSELF and all others.  BOOM!  

I often have clarification conversations with my friends, family members, and clients regarding their resistance toward thinking of themSELVES as HEROES.  And I get it!
Truly.  It may seem for some that calling and accepting yourSELF as a HERO is narcissistic or EGOIC in nature.  When no thing could be farther from the truth!  Want some powerful proof?!  Here is a passage straight from Scripture:

Healing and victory are yours.
In the mind of the Father
you're a HERO.
You're a conqueror.
Whoever is born of God
overcomes the world 
and its many troubles.  
Take what's yours today
and live!

Isaiah 53:5, Romans 8:37, John 10:10

I don't believe you can get any more clear than that!  ;0)

Being a HERO is just as much about what you are BEING as what you are DOING.
Anytime you are BEING in service to yourSELF or another, you are BEING a HERO.  
Here are just a few examples of what BEING a HERO looks and feels like:

Lending a bended ear to someone who desires their voice to be heard.
Feeding the homeless or those less fortunate.
Raising a child.
Giving a kind word of inspiration or appreciation.
Building a business that solves a problem.
Anytime you LOVE yourSELF.

As the great Gandalf from The Lord of The Rings and The Hobbit says:

And who wants to argue with Gandalf the Grey?!  Right ?!

BE HEROIC!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez