Are YOU Having A PROBLEM With MEXICAN CRABS...?!?

"This is the most important and crucial times of your life. For what you do now, and what you decide to do at this age may very well determine which way your life will go. And the question is, whether you have a proper, and a sound blueprint. And I want to suggest some of the things that should be in your life's blueprint. Number one in your life's blueprint should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your own worth and your own somebodiness. Don't allow anybody to make you feel that you are nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth and always feel that your life has ultimate significance. Secondly, in your life's blueprint, you must have as a basic principle to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You are going to be deciding as the days and the years of your life unfolds what you will do in life, what your life's work will be. Once you discover what it will be, do it and do it well. Be a bush if you can't be a tree. If you can't be a highway, just be a trail. If you can't be the sun, be a star, for it isn't by size that you win or fail, be the best of whatever you are. Finally in your life's blueprint must be a commitment, to the eternal principals of beauty, love, and justice. Well life for none of us has been a crystal stair, but we must keep moving. If you can't fly, run. If your can't run walk. If you can't walk, crawl, but by all means keep moving." 

Martin Luther King Jr.

The path toward a life of full Self Actualization takes a heart filled with compassion, courage, and utter commitment.  The road is often paved with a myriad of obstacles, trials, and many tribulations.  You will be peppered daily with dastardly distractions; from material desires, to the allure of quick hits of egoistic pleasures that can set your ship's sails off course from your core objective of following your Hero's Journey and fulfilling your unique life's CALLING.

Most of us become fraught with a variant of FEARS that continue to creep back onto our path, hastening our progress time and time again.  These can include one or many of the following:

Fear of Not BEING enough
Fear of Failing
Fear of Success
Fear of making a Mistake
Fear of 'Being Found Out'
Fear of 'Being Too Old"
Fear of "Being Too Young"
Plain 'ole Self Doubt

While those are just a few of the most common fears we face from time to time, do you know what is the NUMBER ONE FEAR of the Human Race...?!??    The Fear of What Others Think 

Let Them Judge You.  Let them misunderstand you.  Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren't your problem.  You stay KIND, committed to LOVE, and free in your authenticity.  No matter what they do or say, don't you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth.  Just keep on shining like you do!

Scott Stabile

Out in the ocean, there are a menacing group of water loving gang members that are called Mexican Crabs.  These self imposed Shell Bullies travel in large groups.  Anytime one of the individual members chooses to leave its pack, curious of a life beyond the "CLAWS" of its confined state, all the other crabs literally attack it and pull it back into the middle of the clan!!  Once a member, always a member is their motto.  

My question to you New Age Nerds is :  Do you travel within your own pack of 'Mexican Crabs?!"
Do you find that your current Tribe keeps you playing small. Projecting their own insidious fears and lack of strength and courage unto you and your path?!?  Poo-poo'ing your dreams and desires with disrespectful dismisses of the verbal and emotional kind?!   So to circumvent their cruel judgement, time and time again you allow them to pull you back into the middle of the group.  Dimming your oh so bright light in the process. I see A LOT of hands up in the air....   

At the core of this behavior to have the fear of 'Not Fitting In' is a subset of Worrying About What Others Think About Us!  Again, it is second to none the most Soul crushing Fear in our Collective Consciousness.  Many of you may be starting to challenge me with retorts such as "My biggest fear is public speaking!"  But what exactly is the underlying foundational fear about public speaking.  By putting ourselves out there in a shining spotlight, we become Deeply Afraid of What Others Will Think About Us !!  I could use a plethora of other examples of how the root fear of something can be brought right back to The Fear of Others Opinions!  

More brilliant ideas that could have made a real, lasting impact in this world have been snuffed out of existence because of this cancerous form of FEAR!  I would like to share a story to better help illustrate my point.  In one of my coaching classes, the instructor had the group break up into pairs of two and stand in a straight line facing one another.  He asked that we simply look straight into the eyes of the person directly in front of us for two minutes (sounds easy, it ain't..lol)  Then, he went to the front of the line, and asked the first class member what they were thinking about during that two minutes of time.  And I'll have you know that 95% of the answers were exactly the same!!  So what was this often repeated thought;  Worrying in some way, shape, or form what the other person was thinking ABOUT THEM!!  LOL LOL   So people on either side of the line were essentially thinking the EXACT SAME THING about one another!! Really let that sink in!!  It was quite a Paradigm shifting moment for those of us in the class room that day.  In fact, that exercise alone was worth the price of the whole course curriculum.  And it still informs me to transcend any hint of worrying about the opinions of others to this day.............

So what is the most powerful pesticide to cure your case of The Mexican Crabs?!  BELIEF IN YOURSELF!!  Bar none.  Re-membering Who You Truly Are! Once you realize just how off the charts powerful you truly are, the very notion of  being fearful of ANYTHING will be, at most, an afterthought!   And the idea of playing with the Crabs will start to actually make you emotionally ill.  Birds of a feather truly do flock together and you will choose to seek out only the Eagles to fly alongside.  And have no FEAR;  the Universe abhors a vacuum.  When you gain the fortitude to break away from the Mexican Crabs in your life, your new VIBE will quickly attract a new TRIBE!!!   But this clan of more conscious Souls will support you in shining your Light.  They will cherish your Super Powers and shower you with kindness and mutual respect!   TRUST...............

This topic brings to mind a wonderful exchange of dialogue I once witnessed on an old episode of Oprah's ‘Super Soul Sunday’.  She was talking with her guest when the topic of ‘worrying about what others think’ popped up.  Oprah shot up in her chair and espoused, “If you care about what other people are thinking about you, they end up OWNING you.  And slavery done ended 150 years ago!” True dat!  And I will add that the best way to go clinically insane is to keep pouring time and energy into what others think about you.  Because as Dr. Seuss said, "Be who you are and say what you feel.  Because those who mind don't matter.  And those who matter don't mind!"  Go Seuss, Go Seuss....  ;0) 


So starting TODAY, make a pact with yourself.  Start the process of creating a new Mindset of Believing MORE and Worrying LESS using this tips! 

Heroes in Training Tips:

1. Begin a morning and nightly habit of repeating positive affirmations about yourself.  You can find many wonderful examples of powerful affirmations online! I suggest you spend 10 minutes of affirmation work as soon as you wake up and right before going to bed.  Did you know what we feed our mind the last 30 minutes before going to sleep leaves the deepest imprint on our personal Belief system?!?  It's La Verdad!  

2. Start  doing visioning exercises that puts yourself ALREADY IN POSSESSION of the new Tribe members in your life. Use your Imagination.  It is a powerful tool and activates the Subconscious Mind, your spiritual tether to SOURCE energy! 

3.  Then start paying deep attention to how YOU FEEL when in the presence of others.  If you feel less than, judged or ridiculed, taken for granted, or plain out disrespected, it's time to take serious stock if those persons should still be a part of your life.  As I have said many times, IT IS COMPLETELY OK TO LOVE SOMEONE FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE ROOM!  You are still Loving them, and certainly Not judging them.  But sometimes we must leave behind the life we have,  for the one that is awaiting us!!  

4. Start Lovin' You Some YOU!!  By far the greatest relationship you will ever have is the one you cultivate with your own BEING!  We can only give that which we already have, and so it is actually Selfish to not develop healthy habits of Self Love!  It's also one of the most indestructible components of Self Confidence!  Anytime you start having feelings of 'Not Enough', stop and take a deep breath.  Forgive yourself for having that thought again and again until you actually FEEL the forgiveness and the internal shift back from self judgment to self love.  Then keep a list of your accomplishments that you are super proud of and read them to yourself.  Bask in the feelings of heathy self pride, gratitude and remembrance  of a job well done!

5. Be TOO Busy Loving Those Tribe Members Who Cherish and LOVE You To Have Any Time To Worry About Those Who Do Not!!  Anytime you feel judged, attacked, or any other form of disrespect, turn your loving attention and energy toward someone in your life who has proven themselves WORTHY of it!


You've been playing small for MUCH too long!  You may even be using your co-creations with the Mexican Crabs as a way of hiding from your own Brightness.  Although you feel stuck and stagnate within their group, you also feel safe.  Because you don't have to step out of your comfort zone and live an UNLEASHED LIFE!  But the Universe devised a plan for you, of which the byproducts the world desperately needs RIGHT NOW!! It is past time to erase all Self Doubt and Worry about what THEY may think.  Because the truth is that what THEY think is Absolutely NONE of your business.  That's all about THEM!!  

If you are reading this post, it is NOT by accident.  You are reading it because you are ready to receive the MESSAGE!  You can do this!  And Re-member, you are not doing any of this by yourself.  Everyone of you has a Super Heroic Version of your Higher Self.  It has 24/7 access to Infinite Intelligence and pure SOURCE energy.  You are a Miracle Makin' Machine!  At any given time, you have a thousand angels willing and waiting by your very side.  The Mexican Crabs don't stand a chance, unless YOU give it to them.  And we aren't playing in that sandbox anymore, RIGHT?!?  

Hold on, I'll let you go!  I hear the phone ringing on the other line.  I think it's your SOULFUL CALLING.   Time to finally answer the call........    ;0)

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

The Life CHANGING Habit Of NEVER Giving Up..!!!

TODAY'S “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

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Back during the Gold Rush (1848-1855) on the Western Coast of the United States, there are plenty of well worn tales of individuals who sold the majority of their belongings to buy just enough food and equipment to make the LONG trek by horse across the hardened terrain of the country in the hope of finding their personal fortune.  A few actually had the perseverance, courage, strength and determination to make dreams a realty!  Unfortunately, the majority of them eventually ran out of money, food, supplies , or a combination of the three and said goodbye to the Left Coast to go back to the lives of poverty that awaited them.  

However, the lessons those fervent few left behind them have become things of LEGENDS.  Those who read The New Age Nerd frequently know I have a big 'ole man crush on Napoleon Hill.  And in his quote filled book, ‘Three Feet From Gold,’ he actually tells the true story of a man named  R.U Harby who lived during that time.

Harby’s uncle had gold fever, so he staked his claim and started digging.  After a lot of hard work, the uncle found a vein of ore, so he covered up his find and returned home to raise the money for the machinery that he would need to bring the ore to the surface.

They raised the money and Darby travelled with his uncle back to the site to make their fortune.

Things started well and before long, they had enough to clear their debts.  They were excited, everything from here on would be profit and things were looking good.

Then the supply of gold stopped.  The vein of ore had disappeared.

They kept on digging, but found nothing.

After a while, they quit in frustration and sold their machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars.

After they went home in disappointment, the astute junk man called in a mining engineer who checked the mine and calculated that there was a vein of gold just three feet from where Darby and his uncle had stopped digging.

The junk man went on to make millions from the mine.

Darby returned home, paid back everyone who had lent him money and was determined to learn from his mistake in giving up too soon.

He went on to become a phenomenally successful insurance salesman, more than recouping what he would have made from the gold mine.

He learned the lesson that you need to persevere through difficulties and stay focused if you are to become successful.

Whenever you feel like giving up on your dream, remember that you may be just three feet from gold!

~~  Napoleon Hill    (Three Feet From Gold)

I first read that story over 20 years ago and it continues to have a Gi-normous impact on my life.  In fact it is a MANTRA that I live by.  My inner monologue often saying, “Come on Jeff, don't quit!   Can't give up now!   We are just THREE FEET FROM GOLD!"  Of course the gold I am referring to could be a job, a weight lifting goal, or the starting of a new business.   Sometimes, IT IS even about money!!  

But it is that particular story that still informs my own beliefs, values, and sensibilities about the fine line between success and failure in life as much as any other I have ever heard.  It's infused in my favorite stories of amazing Hero's Journey's such as Rocky, Rudy, even The Lord of the Rings.  NEVER GIVE UP.    NEVER.  As they say, the night is ALWAYS darkest just before the dawn.  

Hill's book is so full of piercing life NUGGET'S, I have pulled several  of my favorite in the hope that they leave an indelible mark on your will power during adversity too!

Three C’s:
Congruency:  Be authentic in your words and actions.  In other words, do as you say, and say as you do.  Others are watching, and even more importantly, this is what makes up your character.
Clarity:  Have a crystal clear vision of what you desire.
Certainty:  Know within your heart and soul that what you are doing has purposes. 

Sometimes the worst situations turn out to be the best opportunities. 

When you call upon your subconscious mind you must conduct yourself just as you would if you were already in possession of the material thing that you are demanding. 

Never let mistakes define who you are. 

Collaboration is essential to creat miracles. 

The knowing – there is a big diference between believing in something and knowing it. 

Tell the world what you intend to do, but first show it. 

Stop overplanning. 

Dream big, and never stop short of reacing the top. 

There is a difference in being interested and being committed. 

Whether the glass is half full or half empty depends on where it began. 

~~  quotes from Napoleon Hill    (Three Feet From Gold)

At one time or another in each of our lives, we are going to be met with adversity and temporary defeat.  But 90% of how the experience turns out is in HOW YOU SHOW UP TO MEET IT!    So never quit, you never know, you may be ‘ JUST THREE FEET FROM GOLD!’

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Have YOU Hit ROCK BOTTOM..! Read THIS..!!

Today's “MYTHOLOGICAL MAGIC”

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I have a voracious appetite for biographies.  It started around my late 20's when I had gone through my first absolutely period of being at Rock Bottom. (Yes, I've had many!)  Not that misery loves company in my book, but from an INSPIRATIONAL standpoint, I love to learn about how far down the rabbit hole someone had to fall before they picked themselves off the mat and rebuilt their life.  It gives me hope and a fervent vigor that if they can do it, so can I , damn it!! And what I have ascertained from the comeback stories of so many iconoclasts and spirits of great reverence?!!?  I have learned that HITTING ROCK BOTTOM IS THE GREATEST THING THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN TO YOU!  So if that is where you currently find yourself to be, BRAVO!!  You are EXACTLY where you are meant to be!  Now I am the first to say that being in this possession is by NO MEANS easy!!!   In fact, it can be quite harrowing and even down right brutal at times.  But as the creator of the Harry Potter franchise has repeatedly stated, “I built my entire life from the foundation of being at rock bottom.”  

For those who don't know her story, she was a single mom who was completely out of money and close to losing her home.  One day, in a cafe and in complete desperation, she wrote down the basic outline for Harry Potter on a napkin, even though she had never written a novel in her life.  As we all know what happened since, she is now one of the richest people in the world!!  And her story is FAR from unique.  There are countless stories of individuals who have hit rock bottom only to scale the heights of abundance through blood, sweat, and plain old determination.  It's part of what the idea of the American Dream is all about.  

Before fingers start being pointed in my direction, regular readers of The New Age Nerd know a great deal about the times I have hit my own version of Rock Bottom.  AND I must admit, when you are in the middle of the storm, it can feel downright awful.  But as part of the process, you go through a period that I like to call a BREAK OPEN.  Others call it a BREAK DOWN, but I don't believe there is anything that deems the process a period of breaking down, but rather your heart uses this period to completely break OPEN.  And when that occurs, the ONLY thing that pours out is complete and utter LOVE!  It is very much like the process that a caterpillar goes through during its transformation into a butterfly in that once the process occurs, THERE IS NO GOING BACK!

It is usually during this time that we begin the process of finding our purpose.  Because I have repeatedly stated in this blog, we all have the same purpose.  Which is to share LOVE and Re-membrance to one another.  And so once our heart breaks open, the Love that gushes out can be channeled toward the manner in which you choose to share it!!  It's all part of the Hero's/heroine's Journey.....

This can no doubt be a lonely time as well as a time of great loss.  For during this transformation, we let go of those things that no longer serve us.  This can be in the form of friends, relatives, jobs, and lovers.  Not to mention old belief patterns and paradigms that formed the old foundational systems of our life pre-Break Open!  And that is NOT AN EASY PROCESS!  It's also why so few people hear the call of their Soul and pick up the phone to answer the voice on the other side guiding your Spirit back home.  

In my experience, and those of soooo many I have heard and read about, the gifts that come from the courage to hit Rock Bottom and never give up are almost too many to list.  Here is the short one:  compassion, wisdom, empathy, patience, strength, perseverance, and re-membrance of who you really are and why you are here!  Pretty groovy stuff if you ask me.  :0)

Even the Bible has its allegory for the magic of being broken!  Jesus the Christ would often BREAK bread and that is when the bread would multiply to feed thousands!!  I believe this is because it is a way to show us that we must first be broken open before our own abundance can be brought through us and into our lives and the lives of everyone we touch!

It is absolutely crucial to have a good support system in place during this process.  For there are times in which you are going to want to give up and throw in the preverbal towel.  This is when it is so important to have a group of Spirits who will step into the darkness with you and pull you back into the light when you are ready!  

If there is ONE certainty I can share with you that has all been my heartfelt experience about hitting Rock Bottom it is that you come out the other side with a renewed sense of how GRAND life is and you don't want to waste another minute doing anything but that which brings you joy and happiness!!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Myth Magic Blissful Boost: ADAPTATION

MYTH MAGIC BLISSFUL BOOST :
ADAPTATION

Charlie Kaufman:"There was this time in High School. I was watching you out the library window. You were talking to Sarah Marsh."
Donald Kaufman: "Oh God, I was so in love with her."
Charlie Kaufman: "I know. And you were flirting with her. And she was being really sweet to you."
Donald Kaufman: "I remember that."
Charlie Kaufman: "Then, when you walked away, she started making fun of you with Kim Canetti. And it was like they were laughing at me. You didn’t know at all.  You seemed so happy."
Donald Kaufman: "I knew. I heard them."
Charlie Kaufman: "How come you looked so happy?"
Donald Kaufman: "I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn’t have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want."
Charlie Kaufman: "But she thought you were pathetic."
Donald Kaufman: "That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That’s what I decided a long time ago."

FROM: ADAPTATION 🎞

Please take a moment and let that Sink In! You are what you ❤️ LOVE, Not what Loves you in return.....🙌🏻 Our world is in such need of Truth Seekers, Bringers of the Light, and Heroes with the convictions of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! So even if you feel your wings are broken, or if your heart has been ripped apart by betrayal and loss, please NEVER give up on extending yourself toward others. Honesty, kindness, respect! There simply are not enough of these Superpowers being displayed and put into action!!

In 2019, commit to being a Disruptive Force. Be Disruptive in the way you Love yourself and others! Be Disruptive in extending random acts of Kindness and Compassion! Be Disruptive in showing others the light from your Inner Hero, thus giving them permission to shine THEIRS!  And be Disruptive in showing this world a form of Loving Service to ALL; the likes of which it has never witnessed....👊🏻🙏🏼

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Tips To STOP Telling YOURSELF Stories That DO NOT Belong to YOU..!

“People of National City.  This is Supergirl.  I hope you can hear me.  We have been attacked. Mothers and fathers, friends and neighbors.  Suddenly stopped by a force of evil as powerful as this world has ever known.  Your attacker has sought to take your free will, your individuality, your SPIRIT, everything that makes you who you are.  When facing an attack like this, it is easy to feel hopeless, we retreat, we lose our strength , we lose ourselves.  I know.  I lost everything.  When I first landed on this planet I was sad and alone.  But I found out, that there is so much LOVE in this world out there for the taking.  And you, the people of National City have helped me. You let me be who I AM MEANT TO BE.  You gave me back to myself.  You made me stronger than I ever thought possible.  And I LOVE you for that.  Now in each and everyone of you there is a Light, a Spirit that cannot be sniffed out and won't give up.  I need your help again.  I need you to HOPE...HOPE.  That you can remember that you can all be HEROES.  HOPE that when faced with an enemy determined to destroy your spirits... you will fight back and thrive... HOPE, that those that once may have shunned you, in a crisis, will come back to you in your need of aid.   HOPE, that you will see again the faces of those you LOVE, and perhaps even those you have lost. ”
~~  Supergirl     (Supergirl)

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How many people do you know that secretly desire to be writers of one form or another?  They have at least “one or two” books in them and some may even have derived the “someday titles” of these sure to be future best sellers.  Yet, weeks, then months, and years pass by them by, and not a single page has been touched with any ink. 

Now, juxtapose this with all the people you know who are seemingly addicted to their EGO FILLED PERSONAL STORIES.  Stuck in a maddening (for them and US) pattern of perpetual rewind and play that consists of the The Best Hits of the loss, fractured relationships, complaining, excuses, problems, and other areas of their lives that just plain stink. Especially when it has gotten to the point where you you have heard the story so often, you can play along in your inner monologue, as if quoting lines from a movie you've seen one too many times!   Sound vaguely familiar?!?!  ;0)

And let me tell ya, more than once I have had my own “Best Of” playing like a 24 hour Christmas Marathon of ‘It's A NOT SO Wonderful Life.’   Not so much fun for me or anyone else in earshot of  this dysfunctional and insidious record player that is actually keeping us STUCK from moving forward in our lives.

Now don't misunderstand me.  We ALL need to talk through our problems, pain, and issues.  It's a crucial part of the healing process.   And being a compassionate and kind listener for others in their times of emotional need can be one of the most powerful gifts we have at our disposal.  In fact,  at The University of Santa Monica, one of their favorite mantras was “no healing can begin until the last tear has been shed.”  Amen!  But sometimes, our little gremlin of an EGO comes into play, and has a pastiche of inventive tricks and mind games that actually desperately desires us to hold on to our past stories through the filter of victimhood to keep us from moving forward and growing back toward the LIGHT.  This is when we can get into some serious patterned problems!

In Eckhart Tolle's phenomenal book ‘A New Earth,’ he says,  “A very common role is one of the victim, and the form of attention it seeks from others in the form of pity, sympathy or others' interest in my problems, “me and my story.”  Seeing oneself as a victim is an element in many EGOIC patterns, such as complaining, being offended, outraged, and so on.  Of course, once I am identified with a story I have assigned myself the role of victim, I don't want it to end.  And so, as every therapist knows, the EGO DOES NOT want an end to its problems because they are a part of its identity.   If no one will listen to my sad story, I can tell it to myself in my head, over and over again and feel sorry for myself so have an identity as someone who is being treated unfairly by life, other people, fate, or God.”

So very often, this addiction we have to our stories is actually a part of our own EGO wanting us to keep playing small.  To hold the veil of illusion over our perception making it quite difficult to Re-member Who We Really Are.  And to make things more challenging, we then tend to “make up” stories about who we think we really are based on our egoic pattern of not letting our old stories GO!

As Tolle addresses from the same book, “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your THOUGHTS about it.  Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking.  Separate them from the situation, which is ALWAYS neutral, which always is as it is.  There is the situation and fact, and here are my thoughts about it.  Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts.  For example, “I am ruined” is a story.  It limits you and prevents you from taking action......  Facing facts is always empowering.  Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates the emotions that you feel.  See the link between your thinking and your emotions.  Rather than being your thoughts and emotions,  be the awareness behind them.”  Learn it, live it, love it!!   The action steps Tolle describes above can make the most profound shifts in perspective of anything I have ever encountered.  And can save you from a Gi-normus amount of needless pain and emotionally suffering about our STORIES.

Just as important as it is to know when to functionally be in emotional assistance of others in need, it is EQUALLY important to understand when to create healthy boundaries in NOT BECOMING a part of another's dysfunctional story.  Whether we realize it or not, when we allow the people in our lives to carry on with the exact same stories of a STUCK and DYSFUNCTIONAL nature, we actually BECOME a part of them ourselves.   So if I can offer a suggestion that has worked wonders in my relationships, it's called the “Three Strike Rule”.  I will allow myself to entertain the same story with someone three times.  Hopefully, we can co-create some sort of understanding, uncover an a-ha moment, or self realization about how to move forward during these three chats.  After that, I compassionately explain that unless some radically  NEW information or aspect to the story as been found or created, that I cannot continue in the patterned process as to not become a part of the story myself.  It may seem a little harsh, but it is actually a healthy self boundary action AND will help (at least with you) to curb these perpetual stories from being continually talked about.  I will also often offer up my reasoning for this boundary by saying how much I care for the other person and how I would like to assist in helping them from being MIRED in the past so that they can move forward toward the new life that is waiting for them!   Sometimes, we are not even aware just how much we are holding on to the stories we think define us.   Try it in your own words and see how it works for you.....   

Let's face it, at the end of the day, what we are all seeking with our stories is to find a sense of PEACE about them, right?!   I have a personal knowingness that the real issue is not that our life stories are not a part of our core bring, but only when looked at through the proper lens can they help propel us forward in life.  When we learn to use the transformative tools of ACCEPTANCE and GRATITUDE as the perspective in which to view our life, our stories no longer are clouded by the dysfunctional poison of the EGO.  But rather become the essence from which we can unleash our true power!   So I will close with this perfect prose from Tolle's ‘A New Earth’ as he espouses, “Listen to people's stories and they can all be titled ‘Why I Cannot be at Peace Now.’  The Ego doesn't know that your only chance at being at peace is NOW.  Or maybe it DOES know and is afraid you will find this out.  Peace, after all, is the end of the EGO.  How to be at peace NOW.  By making peace with the present moment.  The present moment is the field on which the game of life happens.  It cannot happen anywhere else.  Once you have made peace with the present moment, see what happens, what you can do, or choose to do, or rather what life does THROUGH you.  There are three words that convey the secret to the art of living.  ONE WITH LIFE.”

BE HEROIC!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Learn The Power Of CONJURING COMPASSION..!!

When we find ourselves in the position of having what I call a ‘Break Open’, which is to have been brought to our knees in an act of graceful SURRENDER, the remnants that are left over in the ritual of after effects are filled with nothing less than unadorned LOVE.  In my teaching of the Hero/Heroine's Journey, I believe this to be one of the most transcendent moments in your life.  And a big part of that reason is because of the COMPASSION that this LOVE represents as it comes gushing out of our healing Spirit looking to do good in the world!  Our job is to find a way of Com-ing From Passion(Com-passion) to funnel that fervor of joy, wisdom, and LOVE out to others. 

Passion is God's way of saying ‘Hi!’  And COMPASSION in my belief is the way we spread the Godliness within to ourselves and to each and every person that crosses our path.  For when we come with passion in everything we do, we also learn so many other things.  Jack Kornfield teaches that our Western Culture has produced a society of both loneliness as well as self hatred.  Why?!  Because the first stage of COMPASSION is understanding.  It is learning to LET GO of the stories we have been told and imprints our psychological being.  Every day is a miraculous chance to start over and Re-member who we truly are; which is nothing less than a perfected emanation of Infinite Intelligence and Source energy.  To let go of the shaming, blaming, and judgment that the ‘others’ in our life have needlessly projected onto our own sense of being.  For most of us, this causes years if not DECADES of painful habits and life choices that mimic the projections of our precious past.  It shows up in the choices we make in our friendships and especially our deep intimate relationships.  Basicially replaying our past over and over again trying to desperately heal a past that was NEVER a part of our own sense of reality or own BEINGNESS to begin with.  We make up stories to help make sense of the painful imprinting we received throughout those oh so many years of our life.  

The second part of COMPASSION is tearful healing through acceptance.  It is allowing our tears to flow freely as a way of bathing our pain from our bodies.  We may NEVER completely heal all of the transgressions from days gone by, but we can certainly learn to allow them to live within us in a much more tranquil and peaceful manner.  Acceptance can be a tricky traitor.  We can fool ourselves into thinking we have truly moved into a state of acceptance in our stories of who we believed ourselves to be, when we are actually just creating a new story that frees us from truly facing our pain.  Examples would be creating a reframing that it is our fault that created our painful past and making excuses for others that free THEM from their responsibility in the co-creations of your experiences together, but NOT YOU.

To truly accept, we must create a space of mindfulness that encompasses recognition, investigation and forgiveness and acknowledgement.  And this is when we live in a state of pure presentness with ourselves and others.  We must acknowledge things for what they TRULY ARE, and not what others tell us to accept them to be.  Through investigation, we learn to free ourselves of the stories that others have been telling us about ourselves, so we can be in allowance of healing these false and limiting beliefs for ourselves in a process of FORGIVENESS.  First and foremost we must for-give ourselves before we can for-give others.  And for me, this process of FOR-GIVENESS is much different than what is taught in most organized religions.  I believe Jesus the Christ's idea of for-giving had nothing to do with blame.  It was not an idea about pardoning someone for a transgression ‘done unto us.’  It is transcending this paradigm into the understanding that no transgression ever occurred.    What transpired is that the other has temporarily forgotten who they are and it is our opportunity for-giving them back to themselves.  To hold a space for them of the miraculous being they truly are until they re-member this for themselves.  How does that difference in meaning FEEL to you?!?

Once we are TRULY past the point of acceptance in the deep resonance of our Spirit, the next step is GRATITUDE.  It is the ability to now see the gifts and opportunities that our pain and suffering actually provided us.  Now that the storm has passed (at least THIS storm) we can walk calm and mindfully along the shoreline and see the gifts that have been left behind and washed up along the sand by Spirit.   These gifts can then be used for the greatest quality that COMPASSION offers us.  Which is the ability to see others exactly as we see ourselves.  With empathy and connection.  Sans any sense of separation.  WE ARE ALL ONE becomes our calling card and motto always and in all ways!!

Compassion allows us to remember not only who it is that we truly are, but others as well.  It transcends any sense of separation and creates acts of fully integrated inclusion of all races and genders into ONE BODY OF LOVE!!

But buyer beware!!  Some teachings believe that COMPASSION is a mind taught to free others of their pain and suffering.  I believe this is in no way, shape, or form what the highest version of COMPASSION can or should be.  As an example, if we try and help a butterfly looking to free itself from its cocoon, that beautiful being will die.  Why?   Because it needs to struggle and use its strength to spread the fluid through its wings that is needed in order for it to fly.  Without this struggle, that butterfly will cease to BE.  In the same way, we must often struggle through our own pain and sufferings in order to conjure the wisdom, courage, and understanding that comes from walking into the darkness of our fear and pain!  So please DO NOT confuse the meaning of compassion with trying to eliminate the process of someone else's process of suffering.  You are actually doing them an injustice by doing so.  Instead, it is my suggestion to use your compassion to assist someone in the understanding of the reason they are going through their dark night of the soul.  So that they never feel as though they must traverse this valley alone. And that there indeed will be someone waiting for them with loving arms on the other side of the birthing process they are going through! After all, REPRESSED emotions are unactualized spiritual lessons........

BE SUPER HEROIC!

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez

Myth Magic Blissful Boost: YES MAN

"The old Carl didn’t think he was enough for anybody. I thought if I said yes to things, sooner or later they would find out that I’m not enough.  I didn’t think I had anything to share.
And now I know what I have to share is pretty huge!"
From : YES MAN 🎞

The key to a Powerful Personal Mindset is shedding any thoughts that make us feel doubtful, worthless, LESS THAN or fearful.

When we have these thoughts, it’s a direct sign that we are disconnected from Source, which is our eternal lifeline to Blissful Abundance in ALL its forms!⭐️🙌🏻   First, you must ask yourself; are You currently grounded in the Present Moment?! Because most of these thoughts stem from both the past and future moments of NOW. The thoughts from the past ooze with regret, and the thoughts rooted in the future are filled with anxiety and worry.

Time to stop and become reconnected to SOURCE.🙌🏻 Start by closing your eyes and simply Breathe! And as you breathe in and out, concentrate only on the breath.  For Egoic thoughts CANNOT coexist when you are at and One With Peace. 🙏🏼 If you are still having challenges with your inner critic....

 Step Two..  Super Helping Servings of Self Love

Self LOVE❤️is often confusing to Spirits on the Path of Self Realization. It may seem Egoic.  And at times it can Be. If Self Love seeks Superiority it is coming from the Ego. If it is coming from the core intention of reconnecting with Your Higher Self than it becomes a deeply Enriching process!  For within this Space you become bathed in the Re-membrance that WE ARE ALL ONE and that YOU are nothing less than Divine ❤️ LOVE!! 
Because there lies within you an INNER HERO who wields Superpowers that make you more capable of creating Miracles for yourself and others than you are currently acknowledging!! 👏🏻👏🏻 You are the embodiment of a Spiritual Santa Clause with gifts to deliver to everyone you meet   ;0)

And you are on a Hero’s Journey to fulfill a CALLING unlike anything the world has ever witnessed!  It was Divinely Devised specifically for you.   Wowsa.. NO PRESSURE...😉 

The byproduct of of its fulfillment is nothing less than the RAPTURE of a gateway towards Beams of Bliss flowing into our Collective Consciousness.  Expanding and infusing the FLOW of Love and Light, Peace, Wisdom, Compassion, and Kindness into the World!!
And the stout Knowingness that as you spread these gifts of Blissful Boosts to others, so will this BLISS be brought back unto you!  For that which you do for others, you do for yourself...
Forevermore-----    You and I are ONE~~~

In fact, Joseph Campbell shared in his infinite wisdom, “Nietzsche was the one who did the job for me.  At a certain moment in his life, the idea came to him of what he called "the love of your fate."  Whatever your fate is, whatever the hell happens, you say, "This is what I need." It may look like a wreck, but go at it as through it were an opportunity, a challenge.  If you bring love to that moment-not discouragement-you will find the strength is there.  Any disaster you can survive is an improvement in your character, your stature, and your life.  What a privilege! This is when the spontaneity of your own nature will have a chance to flow."   He taught the importance of seeing your EXACT set of circumstances as being the most precious gift ever given to each and every one of us.  Because in the history of this world, NOBODY has been besought with the same set of challenges as you have been given.  And guess what, your exact set of challenges will never be the same for ANYONE else ever again.  That is how absolutely and completely UNIQUE you were created to BE.  YOU MATTER MORE THAN YOU KNOW..........  

I’ll make you a deal.  If you are still reluctant to this TRUTH.. Please "Borrow my Belief" until you are able to receive and Accept your own Birthright for yourself!!! You MATTER more than you know...🙇🏻

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez