"This is the most important and crucial times of your life. For what you do now, and what you decide to do at this age may very well determine which way your life will go. And the question is, whether you have a proper, and a sound blueprint. And I want to suggest some of the things that should be in your life's blueprint. Number one in your life's blueprint should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your own worth and your own somebodiness. Don't allow anybody to make you feel that you are nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth and always feel that your life has ultimate significance. Secondly, in your life's blueprint, you must have as a basic principle to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You are going to be deciding as the days and the years of your life unfolds what you will do in life, what your life's work will be. Once you discover what it will be, do it and do it well. Be a bush if you can't be a tree. If you can't be a highway, just be a trail. If you can't be the sun, be a star, for it isn't by size that you win or fail, be the best of whatever you are. Finally in your life's blueprint must be a commitment, to the eternal principals of beauty, love, and justice. Well life for none of us has been a crystal stair, but we must keep moving. If you can't fly, run. If your can't run walk. If you can't walk, crawl, but by all means keep moving."
Martin Luther King Jr.
The path toward a life of full Self Actualization takes a heart filled with compassion, courage, and utter commitment. The road is often paved with a myriad of obstacles, trials, and many tribulations. You will be peppered daily with dastardly distractions; from material desires, to the allure of quick hits of egoistic pleasures that can set your ship's sails off course from your core objective of following your Hero's Journey and fulfilling your unique life's CALLING.
Most of us become fraught with a variant of FEARS that continue to creep back onto our path, hastening our progress time and time again. These can include one or many of the following:
Fear of Not BEING enough
Fear of Failing
Fear of Success
Fear of making a Mistake
Fear of 'Being Found Out'
Fear of 'Being Too Old"
Fear of "Being Too Young"
Plain 'ole Self Doubt
While those are just a few of the most common fears we face from time to time, do you know what is the NUMBER ONE FEAR of the Human Race...?!?? The Fear of What Others Think
Let Them Judge You. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren't your problem. You stay KIND, committed to LOVE, and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don't you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep on shining like you do!
Scott Stabile
Out in the ocean, there are a menacing group of water loving gang members that are called Mexican Crabs. These self imposed Shell Bullies travel in large groups. Anytime one of the individual members chooses to leave its pack, curious of a life beyond the "CLAWS" of its confined state, all the other crabs literally attack it and pull it back into the middle of the clan!! Once a member, always a member is their motto.
My question to you New Age Nerds is : Do you travel within your own pack of 'Mexican Crabs?!"
Do you find that your current Tribe keeps you playing small. Projecting their own insidious fears and lack of strength and courage unto you and your path?!? Poo-poo'ing your dreams and desires with disrespectful dismisses of the verbal and emotional kind?! So to circumvent their cruel judgement, time and time again you allow them to pull you back into the middle of the group. Dimming your oh so bright light in the process. I see A LOT of hands up in the air....
At the core of this behavior to have the fear of 'Not Fitting In' is a subset of Worrying About What Others Think About Us! Again, it is second to none the most Soul crushing Fear in our Collective Consciousness. Many of you may be starting to challenge me with retorts such as "My biggest fear is public speaking!" But what exactly is the underlying foundational fear about public speaking. By putting ourselves out there in a shining spotlight, we become Deeply Afraid of What Others Will Think About Us !! I could use a plethora of other examples of how the root fear of something can be brought right back to The Fear of Others Opinions!
More brilliant ideas that could have made a real, lasting impact in this world have been snuffed out of existence because of this cancerous form of FEAR! I would like to share a story to better help illustrate my point. In one of my coaching classes, the instructor had the group break up into pairs of two and stand in a straight line facing one another. He asked that we simply look straight into the eyes of the person directly in front of us for two minutes (sounds easy, it ain't..lol) Then, he went to the front of the line, and asked the first class member what they were thinking about during that two minutes of time. And I'll have you know that 95% of the answers were exactly the same!! So what was this often repeated thought; Worrying in some way, shape, or form what the other person was thinking ABOUT THEM!! LOL LOL So people on either side of the line were essentially thinking the EXACT SAME THING about one another!! Really let that sink in!! It was quite a Paradigm shifting moment for those of us in the class room that day. In fact, that exercise alone was worth the price of the whole course curriculum. And it still informs me to transcend any hint of worrying about the opinions of others to this day.............
So what is the most powerful pesticide to cure your case of The Mexican Crabs?! BELIEF IN YOURSELF!! Bar none. Re-membering Who You Truly Are! Once you realize just how off the charts powerful you truly are, the very notion of being fearful of ANYTHING will be, at most, an afterthought! And the idea of playing with the Crabs will start to actually make you emotionally ill. Birds of a feather truly do flock together and you will choose to seek out only the Eagles to fly alongside. And have no FEAR; the Universe abhors a vacuum. When you gain the fortitude to break away from the Mexican Crabs in your life, your new VIBE will quickly attract a new TRIBE!!! But this clan of more conscious Souls will support you in shining your Light. They will cherish your Super Powers and shower you with kindness and mutual respect! TRUST...............
This topic brings to mind a wonderful exchange of dialogue I once witnessed on an old episode of Oprah's ‘Super Soul Sunday’. She was talking with her guest when the topic of ‘worrying about what others think’ popped up. Oprah shot up in her chair and espoused, “If you care about what other people are thinking about you, they end up OWNING you. And slavery done ended 150 years ago!” True dat! And I will add that the best way to go clinically insane is to keep pouring time and energy into what others think about you. Because as Dr. Seuss said, "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who mind don't matter. And those who matter don't mind!" Go Seuss, Go Seuss.... ;0)
So starting TODAY, make a pact with yourself. Start the process of creating a new Mindset of Believing MORE and Worrying LESS using this tips!
Superheroes in Training Tips:
1. Begin a morning and nightly habit of repeating positive affirmations about yourself. You can find many wonderful examples of powerful affirmations online! I suggest you spend 10 minutes of affirmation work as soon as you wake up and right before going to bed. Did you know what we feed our mind the last 30 minutes before going to sleep leaves the deepest imprint on our personal Belief system?!? It's La Verdad! The Truth!
2. Begin doing visioning exercises that puts yourself ALREADY IN POSSESSION of the new tribe members in your life. Use your Imagination. It is a powerful tool and activates the subconscious mind, your spiritual tether to SOURCE energy!
3. Then start paying deep attention to how YOU FEEL when in the presence of others. If you feel less than, judged or ridiculed, taken for granted, or plain out disrespected, it's time to take serious stock if those persons should still be a part of your life. As I have said many times, IT IS COMPLETELY OK TO LOVE SOMEONE FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE ROOM! You are still loving them, and certainly not judging them. But sometimes we must leave behind the life we have, for the one that is awaiting us!
4. Start Lovin' You Some YOU!! By far the greatest relationship you will ever have is the one you cultivate with your own BEING! We can only give that which we already have, and so it is actually Selfish to not develop healthy habits of Self Love! It's also one of the most indestructible components of self confidence! Anytime you start having feelings of 'Not Enough', stop and take a deep breath. Forgive yourself for having that thought again and again until you actually FEEL the forgiveness and the internal shift back from self judgment to self love. Then keep a list of your accomplishments that you are super proud of and read them to yourself. Bask in the feelings of heathy self pride, gratitude and remembrance of a job well done!
5. Be TOO busy loving those tribe members who cherish and LOVE you to have any time worrying about those who don't!! Anytime you feel judged, attacked, or any other form of disrespect, turn your loving attention and energy toward someone in your life who has proven themselves WORTHY of it!
You've been playing small for MUCH too long! You may even be using your co-creations with the Mexican Crabs as a way of hiding from your own brightness. Although you feel stuck and stagnate within their group, you also feel safe. Because you don't have to step out of your comfort zone and live an UNLEASHED LIFE! But the Universe devised a plan for you, of which the byproducts the world desperately needs RIGHT NOW!! It is past time to erase all self doubt and worry about what THEY may think. Because the truth is that what THEY think is absolutely NONE of your business. That's all about THEM!!
If you are reading this post, it is NOT by accident. You are reading it because you are ready to receive the MESSAGE! You can do this! And Re-member, you are not doing any of this by yourself. Everyone of you has a Super Heroic Version of your Higher Self. It has 24/7 access to Infinite Intelligence and pure SOURCE energy. You are a Miracle Makin' Machine! At any given time, you have a thousand angels willing and waiting by your very side. The Mexican Crabs don't stand a chance, unless YOU give it to them. And we aren't playing in that sandbox anymore, RIGHT?!
Hold on, I'll let you go! I hear the phone ringing on the other line. I think it's your SOULFUL CALLING. Time to finally answer the call........ ;0)
BE SUPER HEROIC!
BE LOVE - SERVE ALL - ALWAYS INSPIRE
Nerdmaste,
Jeffrey Louis Martinez
Jeffrey Louis Martinez
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