I received a call from a friend of nearly two decades one night this week. From the energy in her voice I could instantly tell she was filled with fraught and anxiety. We actually had not spoken in a few weeks so I thought I would get her caught up in some of the life activities that had come my way during that time until she was ready to divulge the true intention of her call. Well, in certainly did not take very long for her to begin to flesh out the confusion that had befallen on her the previous evening. As so many of my single friend's challenges still stem from the 'dating scene', this call was no different. She had gone out on a date with a gentleman a few nights earlier and felt like she had made many MISSTEPS during the evening. Without going into great detail, she then informed me that she had sent this lad a text that day apologizing for her behavior. However, these MISSTEPS were still causing her a great deal of distraught and self judgment. As a coach and spiritual teacher, I am very aware that the only person who holds the answers to their problems are themselves. It's my job to gently guide them back to the Light that shines on their own solutions and Truth. And so I asked her what transpired during the evening and then let her tell me about the contents of the text she had sent that day. I usually make it a tenet to NEVER give unsolicited advice unless it is specifically asked for, and in this instance it was. My intuitive feeling was that her MISSTEP was actually an AMAZING BLESSON(Blessing and Lesson). For one attribute that she has been challenged with is Vulnerability. A very important part of not only being in relation-ship with another, but also in life at large. And I felt that her text oozed of supreme Vulnerability!! And that it did not mater the manner in which he would or would not respond back to it. Because the gift of that painful evening and MISSTEP had caused her to stretch her comfort zone. And allow her to practice being more vulnerable with herself and another! And it is when as Pastor T.D. Jakes says, "Know when your space is too small for you. And you must be birthed to the next level," my New Age Nerd compadres that MIRACLES occur! Yuperoo!!
As I have fleshed outing previous posts, the HERO'S TIP here is to Re-member that YOU CANNOT MAKE A MISTAKE!! I understand that that may be a challenging concept for many of you only because we have been SO conditioned by society that we must be perfect. Have the perfect body, job, family, house, car...yada...yada...yada. I call BULLSHIT! Because we are already absolutely perfect without any of those things! Just the fact that we are here and were created by a God who wields SOURCE energy and created each and every one of us in pure perfection! And we are all in a life long process of awakening and while NONE of us will forgo many MISSTEPS along the way, please accept that they are NEVER MISTAKES! Whether you can comprehend this long misunderstood concept at this moment in your own evolutionary process does NOT change the fact that we are all doing the very best we know how in any given moment. And as soon as we can learn to use the transformative power of ACCEPTANCE as a tool of self forgiveness and Re-membrance that even our MISSTEPS are nothing more than opportunities for our own growth. In fact, I will go so far as to declare that the greatest teacher that you will ever have is your last MISSTEP!! And that's some powerful declaration huh............ ;0)
As Henry Ford said, "Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though it is sometimes hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character , and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward."
So I ask that you all give yourselves some much needed slack when you do happen to make a MISSTEP in your own life. In fact, that's one of the most important times to ALLOW yourself to be bathed in Love and Self Compassion. Instead of replaying the action over and over again in your mind. Which let's be honest is the very thing that so many of us do. Because by being caught up in such an insidious act of self sabotage, our MISSTEP causes us to MISS OUT on the opportunity that is hidden within our perceived misgiving! And that will only force the same situation to repeat itself over and over again in your experience. I know almost everyone reading today's post has gone through this absolutely frustrating turn of events. When it seems like our lives are stuck on the repeat button of the Universe. We keep meeting the same archetypes of people, and end up in similar jobs with similar bosses...the list goes on and on doesn't it....?!?!?
But when we Re-member that we cannot make a mistake and stay conscious with self love and compassion that we did the very best we were capable of given our level of conscious understanding in any given moment, we become into alignment with GRATITUDE!! And I promise you that by using the dynamic duo of ACCEPTANCE AND GRATITUDE, the MIRACLES that the MISSTEP came to bring you will slowly start to divulge themselves like presents from a Santa of Compassion and Spirit!! And then we can move on to the next chapter of our life, only now saddled with a higher level of consciousness and understanding the next time a similar situation arises..........
Nerdmaste,
Jeffrey Louis Martinez
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