How to Have MORE Life BALANCE..!!

It seems as though we are currently in a precarious time in our society.  And it has me and my friends discussing the situation ad nauseum as of late.  For the most part, there seems to be two distinct camps most of us find ourselves in.  One camp has plenty of financial means and security, but it has come at a dear price.  They spend the majority of their free time working in a job many of them dislike, with a commute that only adds to their dilemma.  Bottom line;  they have the means but NOT the time to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Then there is the second camp.  They have plenty of free time on their hands but the constant stress of not knowing how they are going to pay their bills or take care of their health insurance payments takes most of the fun away from their situation.  In some ways, I feel hypocritical even discussing this topic because for most of us in both camps, we are soooo much more fortunate than the majority of the world.  For instance, did you know that over 60% of the people in this beautiful world of ours wake up each and every morning having NO IDEA how they are going to eat for the day!  STAGGERING and oh so sad!! Yet, for those us in more developed areas, our dilemmas seem challenging in their own right.  --Please do not think I am downplaying the plight of the poor............Like many of you I am sure, I do what I can to assist them in many different areas of my life.  

So for those of us caught up in this dilemma of living one side of a two sided coin, what can we do?!?!  Does balance truly exist?  And if it does, how does one go about achieving it?!  The truth of the matter is that I am not sure of the answer.  What I do know is that each and every one of us is here for a reason.  A PURPOSE larger than we often give ourselves credit for.  A calling of magnificent proportions.  And I think therein lies the problem.  It would be so much easier if we didn't have constant whispers from our Soul about why we are here.  It would make living the status quo oh so easy.  BUT THAT JUST ISN'T THE CASE!!  In fact, for most of us, it is just the opposite.  We bang away in office cubicles day after day, year after year just KNOWING we are here for something more.  And since I don't believe in blanket sentiments, I know there are many of you who find your purpose in these jobs and life situations.   And I honor that part within you that recognizes that.  But for the rest of us, the daily slog of not fulfilling our purpose is an act in soul withering agony!

And please do not think I am advocating walking into your bosses office tomorrow and waxing all poetic about how you have a journey and life purpose beyond the walls of his office and you need to spread your peverbial wings and fly with the eagles.  Because the only thing action will bring you is dinner with the crows.  TRUST!!  LOL  

My life coaching business is all about assisting people in finding their Hero's Journey and to live their purpose by doing so.  But I will be the first to admit that is much easier said that done.  Feel me?!?  As you might have ascertained, I have spent many years thinking about this stuff.  Just sayin!  And here is what I have come up as KNOWINGNESS so far!

We all have the exact same PURPOSE. An that is to spread Love and Inspiration to each and every person who we meet along our own Yellow Brick Road.  It is up for us to determine the manner in which we spread that Love and Inspiration.  And before I go any further let me state something.  This manner DOES NOT HAVE TO BE SOMETHING THAT WILL MAKE YOU RICH AND FAMOUS!!  Now it could bring you such accoutrements, but we live in  a society that has being famous as the creme de la creme of achievements.  Aye dios mio!  

It is also much more important what we are BEING with our life than what we are DOING with our life.  Meaning, you could be a Dr. who has an arrogant aire about him and treats others as though he is above them in many ways.  Or you could be a teacher who treats everyone as though WE ARE ALL ONE.  You tell me; which of the two do you think is being the better servant to mankind?!?  Yeah, easy to discern, huh!

I believe we are all WAY to caught up in what a given situation can GIVE TO US, rather than realizing that we are put into situations to give to them what we feel like is missing!!  Novel idea isn't it.  If we are in a job for instance where there is a lack of compassion, BE the source of more compassion in every interaction you come across during your work day.  Now let me say, I KNOW this is easier said than done.  However,  the grass is rarely greener on the other side.  Until we become content in some way with our current situation, we will NEVER be happy in the next.  BOOM!  That is TRUTH my friends!!

I also think most of us are WAY to hard on ourselves.  We are all doing the very best we know how to do given our current circumstances.  Re-member one of the rules to being a New Age Nerd, which is that YOU CANNOT MAKE A MISTAKE.  Now you will make plenty of missteps in your life, but never a mistake!  AND that truth should be liberating enough to never be afraid to try something out of our comfort zone ever again!!  Right!?!?

So if you are stuck in a job or situation that is less than ideal toward your sensibilities, make a plan.   We have these things called nights and weekends in which we have time to work on changing our situation.  I know it can be tough to use our free time on improving our situation, but trust me, in the long run it will be worth it.  As the old saying goes, ‘Opportunity knocked at the door, and when I answered hard work was on the other side!’  And that is just the way it goes.  The ONLY difference between successful people and their sidekicks is that successful people are willing to do what others are not!!

And if you have tons of free time but limited funds, perhaps start by getting a part time job. It will bring you some daily structure and contacts as well as line your pockets with some much needed dough to help pay the bills!!  Desperation leads to inspiration and that will lead to your salvation in realizing your purpose!! Again, neigh path is right ir wrong and with of them are NOT EASY PEEZY!  Life isn't meant to be easy, it's meant to be meaningful and filled with daily lessons to help us Re-member Who We Truly Are! 

One thing I do know is that once you truly commit to a path in life, your angels will swoop in to assist you in every manner possible.  if you have ever truly committed to something, you know exactly that of which I speak!!

I will end this post with one of my favorite quotes that has gotten me through many sleepless nights by Henry David Thoreau........

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

Nerdmaste,

Jeffrey Louis Martinez