A few months ago, when my life became a tsunami of chaos, loss, confusion and it felt as though the preverbal rug had been pulled out from beneath me, it seemed like a true “knockout” punch from the Universe. This Rocky was temporarily down for the count. I felt so completely overwhelmed that simply getting out of bed in the morning seemed like a daunting task. It felt something akin to the task of moving. You simply don't know where to even begin! And with the Holidays right around the corner, I decided to do, well, nothing! I had been putting in 18 hour days the previous year and knew I was mentally, physically, and spiritually spent. We can only give to others that which we have, and as humbling as it was to admit, there wasn't much left in my ‘spiritual giving’ tank. As those of us in the Wounded Healer community can attest, sometimes we give so much of ourselves to assist others, that we forget to save some of that LOVE, compassion, and understanding for OURSELVES!
The wonderful aspect about being a life coach and teacher is that we can use our hard fought wisdom and understanding on our own BEING!! Yes, even the greatest of the great need assistance from time to time and us coaches are NO different. In fact, I come from the philosophy that everyone is MY teacher as I am everyone else's! After all, WE ARE ALL ONE, right!
So with the help of my personal mentor Justin C., right after the Holidays said their final farewells, I slowly began to devise a plan to put the pieces of my shattered life back together. ONE DAY AT TIME! And now my life is back on track toward my own Hero's Journey!! The first step in my process was to continually remind myself that No Thing in life is ever wasted. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING that manifests into our lives comes for a grand purpose. They bring the essence of the wisdom, compassion, strength, and empathy that you will need for your personal Hero's/Heroine's Journey. But here is the catch; like everything of value in this world, these useful gifts come at a cost. Usually they come to stretch us in ways we never felt possible. And like starting a new Yoga class after years of inactivity, this can be quite the arduous process. Let's just keep it real. IT CAN HURT LIKE HELL!! And can be just as dauntingly scary! And this process is never-ending on our Journey through life. Our own Soul knows when and what we need to take on the next challenging task at hand, and thus we are forced to grow and stretch many times throughout our lives all to share our greatest gifts and become the greatest version of the greatest vision of ourselves!
So here are a few tips and suggestions on how to overcome temporary defeat and get back to spreading the spiritual perfection that is a part of your very essence!
1. TAKE SMALL STEPS
Rome wasn't built in a day and neither will the rebuilding of the parts of your life that require a fresh start. Sometimes we become so overwhelmed with how we are going to get from A-Z that we don't even begin the process. So break up your plan into small, bitesize chunks that FEEL doable within your own personal wheelhouse!
2. Lean On Others For Support
You would be absolutely amazed how many people are willing to extend a helping hand to assist you in your times of need. Don't believe me?!? I strongly suggest you heed my suggestion and put this step into practice, PRONTO! I think you will be happily surprised at the response you receive!!
3. Find Someone To Hold You Accountable
Life can pull us in so many different directions, that even with the best of intentions, we can fall of course of our plan. That's why it is SO important to pick someone to compassionately hold you accountable for your game plan! In fact, hiring a personal life coach is one stupendous way to incorporate someone in your life who will help keep you and your plan in check!
4. REMEMBER: You Are Both a Masterpiece and a Work In Progress At The Same Time
I always remind my clients that they are NOT THEIR CURRENT CIRCUMSTANCES. Your current life situation is here for a purpose. Now I believe it is our responsibility to try and understand what we can Re-member from those whirlwinds of chaos that whisk into our lives from time to time. But trust that they are there for a reason!!
When our lives turn into something more convoluted than the most insane television soap opera, it often means that something absolutely MIRACULOUS is making space to come into your life. It may feel like the exact opposite is true (in fact most of the time it does) but sometimes The Universe needs to force us to remove foundational aspects of our lives that are no longer serving us, so that the people, places and things that will raise our consciousness can replace them! You can either do this on your own volition, or wait for the Universe to step in! It's all up to you, but which one do you think is more painful?!? LOL
So in times of complete chaos, please Re-member, you are still a perfect emanation of Spirit, here to shine as bright as the shiniest of stars!!
5. Be Patient With Yourself And The Process And Don't Compare Your Journey With Others
We live in a world of instant information and results. Yet life is all about the Journey, NOT THE DESTINATION. What if I told you that YOU CANNOT MAKE A MISTAKE?!? How would your action steps and plan in life change? Well, I am here to share with you that you truly cannot make a mistake. Everything you do is based on the amalgam of experience, conditioning, and information at your disposal at any given point in time. In fact, I have removed the word mistake from my lexicon and replaced it with the word “Misstep.” As long as we learn from our missteps, they can no longer be deemed mistakes, but lessons learned. So please be patient with yourself along your Journey. You are going to make missteps along the way. And that is entirely OK. In fact, it is a crucial part of the process!!
And lastly, try and refrain from comparing yourself and your current life conditions with those around you. You have NO IDEA what they are here to accomplish and why their life situation is so much different from yours. Marriane Williamson always says comparing yourselves to others is like trying to look at another person's life notes. They are not meant for you, just as yours is not meant for them. We all have separate Journey's and miraculous purposes for being here. And none is greater than another's!!
It is my hope that some of these suggestions resonate with you and are tangible enough for you to incorporate into your own lives............
Nerdmaste,
Jeffrey Louis Martinez
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