A friend I met in Los Angles and now an UBER successful life coach named Christine Hassler has carved out quite a niche for herself as the ‘Expectation Hangover’ expert! What is an expectation hangover you ask?!? I thought you might! LOL Have you ever woken up in the morning, and once the dream webs from your current night's slumber start to release their hold from your consciousness, you feel a sudden anxious, almost dreadful feeling of the day to come? And as you begin your daily routine of getting ready for work, your inner monologue bellows with thoughts something akin to : “This is NOT the life I had envisioned for myself!” THAT, my dear friends is an EXPECTATION HANGOVER! For those of you called to do so, please check out Christine and her podcast (I highly suggest buying her books as well!)
What I would like to focus on today is the fact that no matter what your current life situation may look like, it is NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME WHO YOU WERE ALWAYS MEANT TO BE! We each signed a Universal contract upon declaring ourselves ready to enter this dense realm of pure illusion! This contract was a promise written in the stars that we would use this Earthly experience to bring forth kindness, compassion, and joy through an eternal LOVE LIGHT that shines through our darkest nights! And as far as our calling is concerned please Re-memeber these holy words:
Please be patient with me....
As my CALLING has been patient...
And your calling with each of you...
Always and in all ways...
Eternally obedient...
A contract written with remnant tears...
From the times they were first imagined then birthed...
Through JOY'S LOVE and Laughter...
They are pure INTUITION made your tangible guide...
Sealed with God's Knowing Nod...
And so it is.....
by Jeffrey Louis Martinez
To help further clarify the fact that many of our greatest Hero's and Heroine's have created their grandest earthly success during their ‘Golden Years’, how many of you know the story of the chicken king himself, Colonel Sanders? At age 5 his father died. At age 16 he quit school. At age 17 he had already lost four jobs. At age 18 he got married. He joined the army and after a few short years knew that the military life wasn't meant for him and left. At age 20 his wife left him and took their baby. He became a cook in a small cafe and convinced his wife to return home. At age 65 he retired. And felt like an utter failure & decided to commit suicide.
One desperate night he sat to write out his will; but instead, he envisioned what he would have liked to accomplish with his life and ruminated about his prowess as a cook. Saved by a stroke of pure providence, he borrowed $87, fried up some chicken using his secret recipe, and went door to door selling his meaty delectable delights. And at age 88, Colonel Sanders, founder of the Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) Empire was a billionaire!!
And one of my all-time personal Hero's, Abraham Lincoln, faced a similar life's Journey. Many of his days were fraught with severe bouts of suicidal depression. (We now understand he was Bipolar). And this, mind you, was way before we had the mental health compassion and tools that we do now. (Although we still have a ways to go in the compassion department!) At age 9 he lost his mother to a horrible illness called milk sickness. He later lost his beloved sister during childbirth. Mostly self educated, Lincoln was often labeled as lazy and disillusioned because of his tendency to spend hours at a time scribbling thoughts and ideas in an old torn notebook.
Lincoln was even tortured throughout his dating life. In fact, his first true love passed away at age 23 from typhoid fever, leaving him completely distraught. While he did eventually marry a woman named Mary Todd, two of their four children passed away before the age of ten! Lincoln and his wife were both so soulfully crushed from cumulative losses, that they both entered a long period of severe clinical depression, from which Mary was at one point institutionalized for many, many years.
Even Abraham Lincoln's political career was far from an easy path. He actually left politics for a period of 12 years to pursue a law career. But Lincoln was finally persuaded by his fellow colleagues to re-enter the political fray and of course, as they say, ‘the rest is now grand history.’
I look at my own Hero's Journey as I am about to turn 50 in October and feel as though I am just now firmly stepping into my true Path! And ya know what?! I wouldn't have it any other way!! I promise you that! I needed to go through much of the suffering, pain, loss, trials and tribulations to access the abilities I use as a coach, spiritual teacher, blogger, and speaker!
So while reading these words today, PLEASE do not be concerned with where you currently find yourself to be on your own Hero's/Heroine's Journey! The SOUL has NO WRINKLES..... And IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME WHO YOU WERE ALWAYS MEANT TO BE!!
BE SUPER HEROIC!
Nerdmaste,
Jeffrey Louis Martinez